Thanks for posting your thoughts.
You noted that you can't determine very much from online communications and implied that it takes direct contact to get a complete picture. You did not mention the intermediate form of contact, the telephone. What do you find out through talking over the phone lines?
Wondering whether a phone call can cull both phonies and balonies,
I liked what Pat said about military service and some of the good charactertics she noted. There are some character flaws that in my opinion are complete deal breaker the biggest one being lack of integrity. Love cannot exist without trust.
Marriage should be a partnership both complimenting the other.