Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.
Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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Bravo! None of the women and men (who have children or ex-spouses) planned it that way. We are trying to be responsible and carry our crosses in His example. We would never wish our circumstances on someone else, but it is what it is. I wish everyone the best in finding their match here.
Can I just say thank you! I couldn't believe someone would write "girls with kids"! Like we just picked them up on the corner or something. If you're Catholic, life is part of the deal when you're married. Geez. Talk about turn offs. Guys who don't like "girls with kids" on a Catholic website.
"I love all my haters"
I never thought that this thread would gain such attention. I appreciate every single contribution to the thread. I have observed that some of the posts may have ruffled some feathers in one way or another, and that is totally understandable. Looking back, the thread was premised on "items" on our profiles that will make other people jump to the next gent/lady. Having said that, it surely is quite difficult to avoid being defensive at times if our own personal circumstance is something others consider a "turn-off". Responses are not to be taken as an attack on our personal circumstances, but rather, a mere expression of another person's preference. We are all entitled to our own preferences, and we all are entitled to be respected for having such preferences.
On another note, I am happy that this thread has been helpful to a number of people. Personally, I use the responses here to introspect and identify my own weaknesses such that I may work to improve on them.
The biggest turn off for me is when men/women have lists about what turns them off.
you were waiting to sneak that in there, weren't you
Not necessarily. Anyone who knows me personally on this site knows that I talk to a lot of people here, and could be engaged in a number of conversations at any given time. I just don't do it all the time. I use my time on site like I'm hanging out at a wedding reception or party - banter among the group at the table or bar while giving one among the group more specific attention. It doesn't happen all the time, or even very often, but it still does from time to time. It's called being sociable.
Anyone that's been around the Fora for a while will agree that Victor has some of the most thought provoking and sharp witted posts.. sometimes sharper than needs to be but he does it in a respectful and considerate way. I dont know him personally but in my limited amount of time in the forums i've enjoyed and respected his posts and wouldn't hesitate to call him a friend.