I would have no problem doing the cooking, cleaning, and taking care of the family. I wouldn't see it as being confined to a box or a certain role. Likewise, if a man wanted to take care of the yard work and fix the car, I would be grateful! However, I would hope that once in awhile, if I've had a bad day or am really tired or busy he would be able to step in and offer to help. I would hope to do the same for him. I have no problem mowing the lawn or shoveling the driveway. Resentment would build if I felt I was doing all of the work or the work I did was not appreciated. I think the chore list would best be made if it was divided according to each person's interests and abilities.
As for interests and hobbies, I think having some shared interests is a great place to start. I think it's important for spouses/significant others to spend time together doing things that both enjoy. If each only does the things that interest them and there is nothing in common it would be difficult to maintain a relationship. It would be like operating within two separate circles, rarely meeting. However, each person does not have to be a carbon copy of the other. Each should have their own interests and hobbies, as long as they make spending time together a greater priority than the separate interests they pursue. I also think, for the sake of the other, that once in awhile each should participate in things their spouse or significant other enjoys, even if it's not a mutual interest. It's good for the relationship to take an interest in one another, even if they don't share the interest in the particular activity or hobby that is in question.
Sherry, Thanks for posting! I agree that men and women should carefully divide the chore list. That show cooperation and support. I agreet hathey should find ways to spend time together doing what they enjoy together and maybe learning something new from each other as well if they can.