To "coerse" a business owner to such an extent that they will lose their business, their livelihood, and all that they have built over the years, is to effectively "force" them to comply. It is a distinction without a difference. I can't believe that you are seriously making the argument that they are not being "forced".
I understand you rolling your eyes and all, but the whole thing boils down to the fact that there remains a choice. In this situation, a person can CHOOSE to keep his business and burn incense before Caesar's idol, so to speak, if he thinks the mandates are coercing him to do grave evil...or he can CHOOSE to give up his business if he believes that the HHS mandates are coercive toward grave evil...or he can CHOOSE to allow the insurance under-writers to write what they want in the policies, and leave it up to his individual employees either to be moral or immoral (i.e., subsidiarity). One can tolerate a lesser evil in order for a greater good to come about. In this case, there isn't even a CERTAIN grave evil committed yet.
The fact is, employers who profess to be Catholic have been signed up for insurance plans which cover abortifacients to some degree already, even before the HHS mandates. The only difference now is that the abortifacients are supposed to be written into the policies with no co-pay. So, it sounds like employers who profess to be Catholic have been stealing cookies from the cookie jar behind the scenes and are now protesting being offered the whole jar of cookies.
So, let's stop with the victim mentality...and be grown-ups. No one is going to be forced to comply, the capacity for choice will remain.