I think that many people who survived have used detachment as a buffer. It's not easily recovered from. I've spent years in therapy and untold hours with spiritual counsel. This is a good topic Chelsea, but I think none of the answers are cut and dried. Mostly prayer is needed, for healing, for God's grace to move on and for compassion for all the mental health issues - for the perpetrators and the victims.
Truth, it wasn't until about a few years ago that I truly felt 'love the sinner, hate the sin' in my heart. I learned to forgive all things. God forgave me. I have no right to withhold that from someone else. I do not need to accept the behavior as right; I do not need to spend time in the presence of these people, but I must forgive, or I am wrong in the eyes of God.