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Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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It went nowhere because I was a bit of a sad sack at the time. Things have turned around since then.
Having met a few women in life that you were/are attracted to both physically and intellectually tells you she's out there! Keep going!
get her to talk
This is one of the most important things a person should understand. The majority of people on this Earth love talking about themselves. You just have to go fishing at first. A person will give a longer response to a question about a topic that one is interested in. If someone you are talking to is giving short answers to questions, obviously they are not interested in discussing this topic (Not necessarily you, so don't get discouraged.) If you catch this person hook, line, and sinker, and have them interested in the question you have asked, follow up on their responses. The interrogatives who, what, where, how, and why can get you 30 minutes to an hour of conversation if you structure them accordingly and this person will be doing all of the talking.
Asking them questions and recieving both positive and negative responses will help you evaluate these people as time spent with them goes on. As you get more comfortable with this, you will be less shy and awkward.
Nick Absolutely has the right idea. I need to come back and read more carefully- But it is all here!
Hi John, I do not think that being shy means you are awkward or boring. I used to be shy (well, I am still a bit!) a tip from me that has opened many doors is to smile. You do not necessarily need to say a lot as long as you are honest and show a smiling face. From a woman's point of view I much rather be with a man who may express himself with fewer but honest and direct words than with one with too many and empty ones. Still, try to show interest towards a woman (if such is your intention) otherwise she might confuse your shyness with lack of interest. Good luck!
John- Thank You for putting up this post. I also I am very shy when talking to females, and I have got a lot out of the advise you have been given. Hang in there.
Yeah, I know the feeling... my shyness is definitely my Achillies Heel!