I have not always gotten along with my two ex husbands, but to their face, in a family setting, I smile and make nice.. The children are so much better off for it. Now that my kids are grown they appreciate it. My DIL Angie's divorced parents don't get along at all even though their two kids are grown.. My son tells her "I'm SO glad my parents act like grownups." I really appreciated him saying that, because his dad left us for another woman and it was tough to keep my mouth shut sometimes.
Wow Donna, you certainly are forgiving. I don't know that I could be in the same room if my x had treated me that way. However, in our situation, we have played "so" nice that when we told our children we were divorced one asked if she could be the flower girl at the "next" wedding, lol, and the rest ran off to play. Thanks to God we have chosen them over ourselves, but it is still heartbreaking. It's over now, thank God! Until Christmas at least.