(Quote) Eileen-890971 said:
Hi John, Yes, I did notice you are a therapist of type...almost reminding me of my fav D...
(Quote) Eileen-890971 said:
Yes, I did notice you are a therapist of type...almost reminding me of my fav Dr. Phil in that he phrases what you have said so you actually feel like he hears the spoken word. Very effective by the way. Yes, you do give a provocative interpretation that makes the reader want to respond. What is your occupation anyway? Just curious butyou can plead the fifth!
I do feel that you have opened the door to questions I had not thought of as well as the dialog from other writers has been eye opening.
The just of the topic I feel is, do you feel safe (and I mean really secure with your partner) enough to let your guard down, be your true
self, TRUST that your partner will accept and love you IN SPITE of your obvious shortcomings. Both sexes have insecurities.
Of course, I can only speak for myself. The love that I feel for my sisters and brother, the love for my children seems neverending. I have
not found that to be true in a relationship with a man. That relationship seems more fragile for some reason, more susceptable to cracks
and dings and chips, more difficult to weather the blistering heat or extreme cold, the hurricanes and tornados (I guess I mean outside
forces now that I think about it). I have more contemplation to do.
I think it is getting a little chili and we may needs a little spicy pepper, maybe some cornbread to brew over the problems of the world!
It is a pleasure speaking with you John.
I see that you're still not offering me any of your thyme. Oh, well, I'll make do with plain, old salt or maybe just turn to the Spice Girls.
Thanks for letting me know that sometimes one of my posts or the replies by others do something for you, are "eye opening" as you say. That's at least part way as nice as spice.
It's impossible to write a completely original topic, but I try to come from a new (or not frequently seen) angle and that different angle may just be the right one for this or that person to get a new insight about something important.
I have had a lot of occupations in my life from working in the Steel Workers union to being the computer lab instructor, which is actually an administrative rather than a teaching job, in a college computer laboratory. My educational concentration was in math and computer science. I have no significant educational or occupational background in any field related to psychology. I now work for myself selling Internet service.
Your remarks about the differing kinds of love were interesting. Maybe part of it is that you come to know you siblings and children in a very gradual way, whereas with a man you marry, there is a starting point in the relationship that is rather abrupt. Another aspect might be the deliberately willed consent to marry and to be under a mutual lifelong obligation to each other, a kind of duty that is different from that owed to siblings and children. Also maybe the particular men were just not socially mature although attractive in some other ways.
The other woman (come to think about, it those three words put together like that don't sound very good do they
) who, as I remember, made the strongest comment that something I wrote really resonated with her was also from the volunteer state. That topic was about how it was hard for men to show the softer emotions without thinking that they appeared weak. Maybe I should resurrect that one as it was four or five years ago.
Thanks for letting me know that that you enjoyed communicating. I like it also. With all that spice I hope you find someone with whom to splice soon as one plus one can be twice as nice.