I think it is very possible to determine if we are in psynch with someone very early and fairly easily. It isn't just dealbreakers which, let's face it, are fairly easy to spot if we don't kid ourselves about the other and are honest about who we are so that they can determine things from their end.
Deal breakers are setting the bar very, very low. We really want that exceptional match and that means finding things that are perhaps rare or certainly special to us.
That said, I have seen too many cases where someone perceived a deal breaker that simply wasn't there. Misunderstandings arising from the difficult mediums of text and phone. And often every day words and phrasing mean different things to different people. Triggers.
But then here too we can say that someone (Not us!) who won't give us the benefit of the doubt and for heaven's sake just ask for clarification, well, we can say that that is a deal breaker. I have seen so much upset and anger from people who jump the gun on red flags.
And in all of this let us do our best to be kind to each other.
Just saw this lol. I do agree jim you should get as much clarification as possible and maybe try to work a compromise but some are just there. For example a girl disagrees with 6 of the 7 church teachings. Well I'd seek clarification and well if that didn't work thats a dealbreaker.
Jim I had the same thing happen to me from a girl who told me she wouldn't pursue a relationship because my favorite shows are It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia and Family Guy. Didn't give me a chance to explain how while those aren't the best I'm still a devout catholic.