But what does equality mean? I don't think the author is saying women shouldn't have the same opportunities as men. I think she is arguing that in this day and age, women don't take into consideration the intrinsic value of men as providers and protectors. So as a result, men have been pushed out of their niche. So if we are not really needed to provide and protect, then we get the feeling we can just live in bachelor pads, get drunk on the weekends, have one-night stands, and live like that the rest of our lives. I mean, we won't have the responsibilities of fatherhood. Granted, this is an immature philosophy that sadly many men now believe.
To put this into perspective, in college I read The Sun Also Rises by Ernest Hemingway. The protagonist Jake is impotent, and this plays out in the book as he is in love with Brett, and her him, but they can't consummate their love. But Jake and his friends, all of whom are in love with Brett, are also impotent in the sense that they can't express their masculine traits. The reason they can't express their masculinity is because Brett is not expressing her femininity. She is twice-divorced, has had many sexual affairs, and has a boyish appearance. That's why God created Eve for Adam. She wasn't created to cook for Adam, clean for him, and wait on him hand and foot. No, she was created so that Adam's masculinity can be fully revealed. I firmly believe that women today have lost that message. If they want to marry a good man, they need to express their feminine qualities. Just like the author says, they need to let men be men. Let them lead. And we men need to respect women, to value them as women created in God's image. But we can't do that if women don't value themselves. Remember, how women act and behave will influence how we men will view them. Their femininity affects our masculinity.
The love you describe sounds great (Men lead and protect- men need to respect women, to value them as women created in God's image), but many men treat women as a possession to dominate. They like to throw bible quotes at women to justify their need to control women. I am not saying that all men do this. With regard to what you said, "Remember, how women act and behave will influence how we men will view them. Their femininity affects our masculinity.", that holds true for women too. How a man acts and behaves (whether men respect women and values them or treats her like a subordinate to dominate) will influence how women view men also.
What I mean by equality is women should not be viewed as a subordinate just because we are women, whether in a marriage or in any other life situation.
I don't agree with the authors suggestion that the reason men don't want to get married rests in the fact that women are in the work force, if I understood that correctly. Men can still lead and protect even if both husband and wife work.
I didn't respond to engage in a debate. You asked for opinions and that's what I gave.