Well, there’s a lot there to chew on, and there isn’t the time nor space here to address every aspect of this debate so here’s my two cents. I don’t think there is a war on men. I think there is a war on family values, which didn’t start in the 1960’s with the feminist movement in the Western world either. The war on family values has been ongoing for centuries, and it is a battle that is fought in the hearts, minds and souls of every adult who has ever lived. Temptation to sin is always there.
Women who get an education and who work so that they contribute to their own well-being and their family’s well-being are not the cause of sin, family break-down or a war on men. Some men can’t deal with the fact that they no longer have all of the economic power that they used to. Sorry to say this, but that economic power was not always used to uphold family values.
Women who earned degrees and entered the workforce didn’t destroy families or marriages. Long before women started to break barriers in universities and the workplace, some men would leave their wives and children for younger “sexier” women who didn’t have wrinkles or middle-aged spread so that they could have the status of attracting a hot young thing on their arms. I did not say all men, just some men. Years ago, 60 Minutes did a piece on the "Homeless Women of Beverly Hills". It was an eye-opener.
I’m not sure what the statistics are for the year 2012, but for the longest time in the twentieth century, most single parent families headed by women were below the poverty line. So, an abandoned wife, or a widow (whether with children or not) was in a position of earning less to support herself (and her family) because the job/career system worked in favour of men. If her husband left her for a “hot young thing”, then she was blamed for not paying enough attention to her appearance, letting herself go, burning dinner when she was overwhelmed or whatever. Did anyone blame the man for not upholding his marital vows?
Granted, there are women who do not uphold their marital vows, and there are also marriages that break down as a result of two people not being able to get along anymore, or a myriad of other reasons. I am not throwing stones at those who have experienced the pain of divorce.
While it can be awkward at times for men and women in the same career paths or workplaces to relate to each other as colleagues or competitors instead of potential romantic partners, there are couples where the husband and wife both have high-powered careers as doctors, lawyers, government officials, or less prominent careers as carpenter and full-time cashier and so on. I see it happen all the time. Do men remember being boys in grade school when there were girls in their class who were really smart and got good grades? Well, when those girls grow up they don't all of the sudden become airheads. God did not intend for any of us, male or female to hide our lights under a bushel. Is Lolo Jones or Venus Williams supposed to stop pursuing athletics so that she doesn't alienate men?
Trying to paint women who have pursued career goals as money hungry is also unfair. Most of the women in my social circles are middle class and work because shelter, heat, electricity, transportation, shoes, basic clothing and food are not free.
One of my mentors who is female, married and has children once said to me that work-life balance is always challenging, but in a successful marriage, the husband and wife at different points take a career lead. She spent more time with the kids when they were younger, putting her career on the back burner. When she was given a career opportunity that was too good to pass up, her husband geared down his career goals and stayed back with the kids more. They both balanced their careers with their family and their marriage. Being willing to compromise and work together is the key.
As I said just some random thoughts. I have to get ready for Mass. God Bless!