Renai, Good on you for starting a very bold and interesting topic!!
I recently read a story on the Internet about a 21 year old virgin from Brazil who auctioned her virginity to the highest bidder and it was sold to a chap in Japan for $780,000 Euros( I could be wrong about the figure and currency). The girl's reason for orchestrating the bid was that she plans to use the money to clean up the slums of Rio De Janeiro by building schools, hospitals and so on...now really? It seems that selling her virginity was just a means to an end and in her book the ends justified the means. I see her actions as totally misguided and morally misconstrued.
This girl's actions should come as no surprise to us, because the media bombards us with superficial messages about sex without fully understanding the sacredness of sex. The values of the world say, "its OK to have sex as long as you use a condom to protect yourself." Concepts like virginity and chastity are becoming foreign and some persons are giving into the pressures of the world. My advice is, "DON'T DO IT", whether you've never had sex or you've had sex before and you've chosen to refrain from sex until marriage continue to remain faithful to the teachings of the Church.
I think one of the things that stands out for persons that strive to preserve their virginity is that their physical abstinence should be reflected in a spiritual desire to strive for a purity of heart. So being a virgin does not only exist on a physical level , it also about nurturing your spiritual life and living a life pleasing to God and I don't think that should ever die. Not to mention that maintaining one's virginity or living a chaste life is a choice and should be reflected in one's lifestyle, but that sounds like something for another thread