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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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Jan 27th 2013 new
(Quote) Karen-712407 said: Clair! I absolutely love you!You gave me the biggest laugh of the new yearEVERYTHING can be taken out o...
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Clair! I absolutely love you!
You gave me the biggest laugh of the new year
EVERYTHING can be taken out of context and...... enjoyed!

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Wait untill I irked you so much you'll throw things at me! duck "Missed me, missed me, now you got to hersheyskiss me embarassed
Jan 27th 2013 new

(Quote) Bernadette-605528 said: Last post so we don't hijack the thread completely Moscow's nine hours ahead of DC.....
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Last post so we don't hijack the thread completely Moscow's nine hours ahead of DC... arithmatic's never been my strong point, so that guess could easily have been completely wrong.

I'm sure that if anybody in Russia heard Midnight in Moscow back then, they would have liked it :)

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No hijack. 9 hours, and the song is cool after 51 years. Hope you do one of the Russian polar swims I've seen.... ultra cool.

Feb 19th 2013 new

(Quote) John-857142 said: I am confused. Why would anyone remain in a dating relationship for 4 or 6 years. It seems that if...
(Quote) John-857142 said:

I am confused. Why would anyone remain in a dating relationship for 4 or 6 years. It seems that if both parties cannot make the commitment after 2 years, then it would seem they were not meant for each other and should move on and allow God to choose their mate. Long dating relationships put inordinate amount of pressure to engage in physical intimacy.

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We were both in school and still dependents so getting married right away was obviously not an option (the only way would be eloping, which would be foolish). We brought out the best in eachother academically, spiritually, and otherwise. I remember making him get back into going to confessions and receiving the Eucharist again. Even though I later realized he wasn't the right one for me, I believe God brought our paths together for a good reason: to use us a instruments to make eachother a better person and get us prepared for His future plans smile

Feb 21st 2013 new

(Quote) Chuka-941523 said: We were both in school and still dependents so getting married right away was obviou...
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We were both in school and still dependents so getting married right away was obviously not an option (the only way would be eloping, which would be foolish). We brought out the best in eachother academically, spiritually, and otherwise. I remember making him get back into going to confessions and receiving the Eucharist again. Even though I later realized he wasn't the right one for me, I believe God brought our paths together for a good reason: to use us a instruments to make eachother a better person and get us prepared for His future plans

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Sorry. My comments were not meant for couples still in high school or even college. It sounds as if your relationship was fruitful.

Feb 21st 2013 new

(Quote) John-904878 said: So much to be said here......Yes, two grown ups, outside of marriage, may freely consent to have i...
(Quote) John-904878 said:

So much to be said here......Yes, two grown ups, outside of marriage, may freely consent to have intercourse. If they know that that is a sin of fornication--and it is pretty hard not to know that if you have any sense of Christianity--they will have the joy of burning in hell together for all eternity': thirty seconds of "heaven" for an eternity of hell.

Anything else is simply not a Christian or Catholic response, regardless of what some 'Christians' may say or do.

I am gonna rant again, like I did about women's clothing yesterday..........I am absolutely disgusted with any woman, if viewing her profile, who 'disagrees' with 'Church teaching' about premarital/extramarital sex. You wanna know what I say to myself when I get emots from such, or am viewed by such when I discover their thought on this? "Get away from me!!!" I add something else, also, not profanity, but I should leave it out...

NOW, the sexual act is but a small part of human sexuality. Sexuality can be expressed--man and woman each in their own unique, God-given way--in a multitude of ways. I am sure most of us know this. Expressing our sexuality as male or female goes so far above the merely physical, copulatory dimension. Thanks be to God! Of course, there is something in the human person that still inclines to that expression--let's not kid ourselves here--and all of us (males especially, generally speaking) feel that lack of expression, and perhaps the need for that expression, from time to time. But that is where chastity comes in, right. That is where our love for God and our Lady and St. Joseph come in. And this is expressed in prayer.

I was a monk for over 22 years and I guided many novices through such waters. And let me be clear: our prayer life can be and should be an exression of our sexuality. Yes, did you hear that? Look at the Canticle of Canticles in Holy Scripture. What is it about? A few things: The love of man and woman and their longing for union, set to poetry. Allegorically, it is a poem about the love of God and the love of man and their union in supernatural charity. Yes! my prayer life--and i take it very seriously--is a very real expression, daily, of my sexuality. At daily Mass and my Holy Hour..........

Our sexuality is like a pallette of paints, and our life is the canvas. If we want to paint with the 'color of copulation' only, there will be no picture: only something frightfully similar to much contemporary art........If we use all the colors in the spectrum of our sexuality (to shift the metaphor) to paint our lives, then we will have something beautiful: sexual intercourse or not.

But this requires an absolute committment to the life of prayer, and I don't mean just weekly Mass and mumbling morning and nighttime prayers...............Remember God is the best psychologist. And He knows that we are sexual beings, and He invites us to the life of prayer. That is much better than 'thirty seconds of "heaven"'

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It is not helpful to say anyone is going to burn in hell. God is all loving and merciful. We leave those decisions up to him. I am leary to say anyone is burning in hell... even the worst among us.. the Osama Bin Ladens of the world and abortionists.


Feb 21st 2013 new

Having blown past being a 40-year-old virgin 8 year ago and not read all of the previous posts, I'll say that I pretty much expect to die in this state. It's been years since I've even dated anyone, and am nervous about the whole thing. The only people I get flack from about it are people whose opinions don't mean much to me; the jabs still sting, but I count them as next to worthless.

Would I like to get married and maybe have kids (mine or adopted or whatever)? Yes! I'm signed up on several dating sites, all but one being Catholic (I'm a Mensa member, so I got to sign up at braniacdating.com too). I'm also always open to a Vocation (with a capital V, not dismissing marriage as one as well) and even spent a year in a Norbertine priory a year after high school. Needless to say, I've made no permanent plans at this point.

I am just insecure enough that marrying someone who is not a virgin causes me concern because I don't have any direct experience. I figure by that point in the relationship, though, hopefully that worry would be dismissed.

Well, that rambled more than I expected, but it's my first post at CM, so blame it on nerves.

God bless, all!

Jim

Feb 21st 2013 new

There's worse things in life then dying a virgin. There are more important things in life than sex. And those who have steadfastly maintained their virginity in this society clearly understand God's plan for human sexuality.

If I die a virgin, so be it, at least I go to God with a clear conscience. Remember, the Kingdom of God does not belong to fornicators.

My desire for marriage stems from willingness to share a life with another individual, to sacrifice and serve that other, and to co-operate with God in procreation, bringing fourth new souls who will grow to know and love God. I honestly dont' think "yay, when I get married I can have heaps of sex whenever I want! Yay! Sex!!"

Honestly, having no sex, its not the end of the world.

As for "born again virgins", I think that's a complete cop out and it offense teh sacrifices and discipline of people who have maintained their self control. Sure, God can forgive any sin, no matter how egregious, but people need to be honest with themselves and others. There's no such thing as a "born again virgin", there are just people who made a mistake and are now living a life free of that sin.

Feb 21st 2013 new

(Quote) Renai-414828 said: One other thing to add Ray, is that while I see and understand where you are going with your com...
(Quote) Renai-414828 said:

One other thing to add Ray, is that while I see and understand where you are going with your comment above, there is a human element we cannot ignore in all matters concerning sex. I don't see myself yielding to pressure, but at the same time, our humanity is real.
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You want a good, solid marriage? Maintain your virginity and marry a virgin.

There's been a series of studies lately that have come out recently [I'll have to go dig them up], which have found that premartial sex increases the risk of divorce by significant percentages, more so for women. Something in the vein of 67% increased risk of divorce for women who fornicate, and that even includes if she fornicates with the man she ends up marrying.

I saw one stat a while back, marriages between two virgins, a divorce rate of less than one percent.

Sexuality is part of the human condition, just like pooping. But God created sex to have a time and a place just like he created poopin' to have a time and a place.

You don't poop on your neighbour's door mat just as you don't fornicate.

Feb 21st 2013 new

(Quote) Naomi-698107 said: Sexuality is part of the human condition, just like pooping. But God created sex to have a time a...
(Quote) Naomi-698107 said:

Sexuality is part of the human condition, just like pooping. But God created sex to have a time and a place just like he created poopin' to have a time and a place.

You don't poop on your neighbour's door mat just as you don't fornicate.

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Feb 21st 2013 new

(Quote) Jim-34913 said:Having blown past being a 40-year-old virgin 8 year ago and not read all of the previous posts, I'll say...
(Quote) Jim-34913 said:Having blown past being a 40-year-old virgin 8 year ago and not read all of the previous posts, I'll say that I pretty much expect to die in this state. It's been years since I've even dated anyone, and am nervous about the whole thing. I am just insecure enough that marrying someone who is not a virgin causes me concern because I don't have any direct experience. I figure by that point in the relationship, though, hopefully that worry would be dismissed.
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There are plenty of Matches for you here on CM Jim.Don't worry.

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