This is a Catholic (Christian) service. You know, we have the norms already but......
Let me just talk from my experience so that others may learn. I have thought in the past and do at times still think that dating is a competitive sport. If I snooze, I lose.
By the same token, if I come across as being selfish, I probably am. When I was younger, I pursued goals with reckless abandon such that if anything or anyone got in my way, I was perturbed. Now that I am older (and we all get older), I see that we are all connected (especially because we are all on a Catholic (Christian) website likely led here by an inspiration of the Holy Spirit, without a doubt.
Being a male I never had the great insecurity that some women may have, I guess, that if a person of the opposite sex wants to talk with me that means I must make a life-long commitment and give up time that I could be spending with Miss or Mr. Wonderful. Or, I have never really felt that if a person of the opposite sex asks to talk with me and I am not attracted to that person, that somehow my manhood (or sexuality) is threatened. I am guilty, if you want to call it that, of not responding to women who have written to me. I did not have the skills of knowing how to not lead someone on... Now I do, I think it's called being a loving person without expecting more.
Now, I know the importance of behaving through my words and the attitudes they convey, as a Christian was taught to behave. I now have the goal (and more stout desire to achieve it than I did in the past) of just trying to lighten someone's load through a kind word, even though it takes a few of my precious minutes.
I actually think that God can allow us to continue to do good work on Earth in the afterlife as in the case of St. Therese of Lisieux in which case time is no longer a concern, but that is a topic for a different discussion.
To summarize, though I have been, and continue to be at times, a knucklehead in the past, it is my intention to give and receive encouragement, spiritual repose, rejuvenation and a firmer purpose to be holy through the use of services of this site. I hope that others can identify with what I am saying and find encouragement that we are striving for the same things and there are enough good things to go around in the cooperative, other-affirming, self-affirming, loving world of a Catholic (Christian) match site - that BTW is not supposed to be like a secular match site, do you agree?