Ted, I agree with what you said--I ultmately concluded that the person might well have a dependency issue that was not so easily hidden when we were face to face. It is all I could come up with to explain such a reversal of personality as I experienced.
No one should blame themselves for not being able to "save" someone else from themselves. That is not our job; we are just to try to be conduits of God's grace, and it's up to Him and the other person.
And to the comment of never going to visit a man first from some other posters, I often go to his location, so it was part of a trip I was taking, but I actually tend to prefer to go to the man's location for a whole variety of reasons. But that was when I was into LDRs...not so much anymore.
Well, there's no reverse gear in my engine, nor do I ever hit the rewind button. However, admittedly, there have been a few times where there was a delete button present, but, regrettably, I chose not to hit it at that time and paid the price for it later.
Victor, I think we have all been there! We live and learn! Veronica
Billy, It is so sad that you said that was the most beautiful date you had ever been on, but then you never went out with her again! Laughing is good for the soul! I know you were embarrassed, but you should not have taken it personally! I know I would have laughed too! Just saying...
Several years ago I asked out a woman from my young adults group. She said yes, but that she was going to be busy over the next few weeks. In the past, when a woman said that, it was a polite way of telling a man no. I learned that the hard way when I lived in TX.
I never followed up with that woman, but we remained friends to this day. Now I wonder if she was being genuine in how busy she was, and that interactions we've had since then were precursors and indicators to make a move. I'd like to try again when and if I ever see her again, but I can't decipher the signals between friendship and potential courtship. I don't care to have a repeat of the TX train wreck, but I also don't want to live with the regret of not having followed up.
Carl, Life is too short! COMMUNICATION! Just contact her and say you want to talk to her about something and just ask her! Women like a man that knows what he wants and goes after it! Say a prayer first and then Trust In Jesus! HE will take care of you, either way! All God's blessings to you! Veronica
So many things and people always seem to get in the way of it. Sometimes I wonder if God is steering me toward another woman. We all know there's plenty of you here on CM. I just wish several of you were within reasonable driving distance.
That is why God made airplanes! Take a chance! Just do it! God has your back!! :o) Veronica
Hard to do when you're an Army Reservist on active duty and have no leave time built up. Even Christmas will be short and lonely this year.
Carl, If it is the RIGHT woman, it will not matter to her! She will wait patiently for you! She will know that when you do see each other the time spent will be magical! Veronica
For me, there are no dating regrets. It's been my experience that the worst situations make the funniest stories. How stunningly dull life would be if everything always worked out as planned?
Years and years ago, a wonderful man took me to a sushi restaurant. We left our shoes in the outer room and tucked our feet under the table. He explained to me about the soy sauce and mixing it with wasabi. I stared lovingly into his eyes and for a split, took my mind off my chopstick. Plop! Yes, about 14" dive into the soy sauce below went my California roll. I had so much soy sauce all over me that my cream blouse looked leopard print!
He promptly stood up and announced to the entire dining room, "Ladies and Gentleman, Ms. So and So!" Yeah, I about died and I could have killed him, but it was funny than and it's still funny to me. Life's an adventure! Live it to the fullest!