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I wont go into the reasons here but men who love their children are higly attractive to me! If you don't have kids, its ok. I just know that this element tugs at my heart.
I dont expect a man to support me but a man who works is attractive. I know that some people have disabilities that keep them from doing so and that doesn't mean that they aren't worthy of love but WORKING is attractove to me.
The physical traits are random. It is odd. Maybe it isn't. I have dated tall men, short men, slender, heavy set, bald, hair upon hair, and in each of them I found things attractive in the way they looked. Their eyes were warm their smile melted my heart. I guess these were the common factors they shared. I like the firtatious banter though but don't we all?
Virtues...this kind of wraps it all together. Integrity in his faith, family, and work. Compassion when seeing others struggle. Kindness and charitability, do they try to look at what good lies within people or are they quick tempered? I fun loving peacefilled spirit works on my heart.
with all of this being said...PLEASE Father, help me be these gifts to someone in return! Amen
John, I feel that good grooming is an essential. As far as physical stuff is concerned, I would almost prefer not to date any man who is real good looking. This is not universal, but many good-looking men tend often to be full of themselves. Love of faith, and character, and sense of humour are remarkably more attractive to me than a man's physical characteristics. ((I happened to grow up in your area. Ever heard of "little" Saint Mary's??))
Wow, was she the "wrong one". So glad she is a former girlfriend, John.
My husband loved his mother, but I was fortunate enough to hear him defend me when we first married and she tried to come between us. He let her know, very respectfully, that I was his wife and he first loyalty was with me. After that, we never had any problems. And, in fact, she was one of my best friends. Now, I know there are mothers that can't or won't let go. I had one. While I always treated her with respect, there did come a time when I had to respectfully tell her that we would not be seeing her for a while until she could show respect to my husband.
Life can be so interesting.
Good for you! I would never want a mama's boy... That's a whole diferent issue.
As for her, I can summon it on 2 comments:
Operative Word: LAST!
Pick a Fight: She was looking for an excuse to quarrel...
Rereading my post, I can see my reference was not clear. I was not meaning to state that you assume that of people. I was trying to use an example of dating a man who lacks fidelity. One life experience dating a man who cheats = all men are lying cheaters .... I meant to state that this is a logical falicy.
In the end, whatever floats your boat. (Not to be a relativist, but I don't have the energy to talk you out of something you already believe about yourself and women in general.) I get tired of the search for "physical perfection" that is so a part of our society... especially California culture.... especially at the cost of moral purity and even self-decency. (To clarify, not mking these statements about you... just clarifying what I have witnessed in my life experience.) Physical beauty may be a part of initial attraction, but both fade. I'm just looking for more...
I believe you missed the point I was trying to make. If we continually deny the role of physical looks that makes a man attractive, and solely base a man's attractiveness on good virtues and traits, why then are the "good men" of CM not selling out like hot cakes to the women here?
The other point I was trying to get across is, some people are apprehensive about admitting that it was the physical looks that made them initially attracted to a man. Such apprehension maybe from fear of being judged as shallow or superficial.