(Quote) David-364112 said: My experience is that this applies equally to both genders. Many women stop showing any affection to the...
(Quote) David-364112 said: My experience is that this applies equally to both genders. Many women stop showing any affection to their husbands as well. Why do you suppose that is?
I have a theory on this, David. I think many couples stop appreciating each other and grow discontented. (The same thing happens with our homes, our jobs, our cars, etc.) This grows into envy or the "I want what she has" syndrome. The more discontent we are, the more we start believing the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. ("Her husband would never act like mine", or "Her husband would ask how I feel" etc.) We start to pull away, spiritually, physically and emotionally from our spouse. We start expecting the other person to do things that make us happy. Unfortunately, they don't have that power. Happiness isn't an external force. It has to come from within.
There is a simple solution. Pray for contentment. Soon we'll start to realize that what we have is really good enough. We start appreciating the other again and our expectations change from "What will he do to help me" to "What can I do to show him I still love and care about him?" This in turn sparks the feelings of love in the other and when the little loving gestures are made, they are noticed and appreciated.
I think a lot of marriages can be saved by simply praying for contentment each day. The beauty is it doesn't change the other person. It changes us and allows love to grow naturally.