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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

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Dec 5th 2012 new

I think it boils down to temperament and family of origin. Some people (and David's right - male or female) just are not affectionate by nature. It may not be due to mistreatment. It may not reflect a lack of love. It may just be their own comfort zone. It can really be difficult for their beloved who may crave affection! Also, considering we're on CM, many of us are cautious about chastity and unsure where to draw the line in terms of physical affection. Just another ingredient in finding the imperfect, prefect match, I think.

Just my thoughts. scratchchin

Dec 5th 2012 new
(Quote) Barbara-740721 said: I really think Liberacion means well, no need to be unkind!
(Quote) Barbara-740721 said:

I really think Liberacion means well, no need to be unkind!

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Yes. I agree there is no need to be unkind.
Dec 5th 2012 new
(Quote) David-364112 said: My experience is that this applies equally to both genders. Many women stop showing any affection to their husban...
(Quote) David-364112 said: My experience is that this applies equally to both genders. Many women stop showing any affection to their husbands as well. Why do you suppose that is?
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I'm sure there are some women who feel that once they have the ring on their finger, the deal is done and they don't have to try anymore. We all know thats not true.
Dec 5th 2012 new

(Quote) Liberacion-894835 said: There are only 2 reasons I gathered: 1. They think showing their love spoils her and ...
(Quote) Liberacion-894835 said:

There are only 2 reasons I gathered:

1. They think showing their love spoils her and could take him easy.

2. Showing affection is some weakness.

Man, showing your affection to the woman you love is not a weakness at all. If you only knew - A WOMAN WILL CARRY THE WHOLE WORLD ON HER SHOULDER FOR THE MAN WHO LOVES HER.

To the Gentlemen: Would you consider this as a weakness? Why?

To the Ladies: Would you carry the whole world for the man who loves you?

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If we are talking about two people who love each other...then the answer is absolutely yes.


- Elizabeth

Dec 5th 2012 new

(Quote) Josephine-586127 said: I'm sure there are some women who feel that once they have the ring on their finger, the...
(Quote) Josephine-586127 said:

I'm sure there are some women who feel that once they have the ring on their finger, the deal is done and they don't have to try anymore. We all know thats not true.
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Those little ladies will likely end up in divorce court.


- Elizabeth

Dec 5th 2012 new

Publicly or privately? I had a girlfriend in college who made it clear that PDA was out of the question.

That should've been my first clue.

Dec 5th 2012 new

(Quote) Josephine-586127 said: I'm sure there are some women who feel that once they have the ring on their finger, the...
(Quote) Josephine-586127 said:

I'm sure there are some women who feel that once they have the ring on their finger, the deal is done and they don't have to try anymore. We all know thats not true.
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once they have the baby the onlyreason to keepthe man around is so he can pay for things.

Dec 5th 2012 new

(Quote) David-364112 said: once they have the baby the onlyreason to keepthe man around is so he can pay for th...
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once they have the baby the onlyreason to keepthe man around is so he can pay for things.

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I would keep him around for other things too... laughing I can't reach the top shelf and am not the biggest fan of dishes... laughing And I would want more than one baby... laughing

Dec 5th 2012 new

(Quote) David-364112 said: My experience is that this applies equally to both genders. Many women stop showing any affection to the...
(Quote) David-364112 said: My experience is that this applies equally to both genders. Many women stop showing any affection to their husbands as well. Why do you suppose that is?
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I have a theory on this, David. I think many couples stop appreciating each other and grow discontented. (The same thing happens with our homes, our jobs, our cars, etc.) This grows into envy or the "I want what she has" syndrome. The more discontent we are, the more we start believing the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. ("Her husband would never act like mine", or "Her husband would ask how I feel" etc.) We start to pull away, spiritually, physically and emotionally from our spouse. We start expecting the other person to do things that make us happy. Unfortunately, they don't have that power. Happiness isn't an external force. It has to come from within.

There is a simple solution. Pray for contentment. Soon we'll start to realize that what we have is really good enough. We start appreciating the other again and our expectations change from "What will he do to help me" to "What can I do to show him I still love and care about him?" This in turn sparks the feelings of love in the other and when the little loving gestures are made, they are noticed and appreciated.

I think a lot of marriages can be saved by simply praying for contentment each day. The beauty is it doesn't change the other person. It changes us and allows love to grow naturally.

Dec 5th 2012 new

What a horrifying thought!

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