For Ray, Marian, Leon and those that have reminded us that there are still gentle men and gentle women in these fora, thank you! I'm often surprised that on a dating site there are those that do not even appear to like the opposite sex. I like harmony, I seek peace, I crave togetherness and just want everyone to act and talk kindly to each other.
It is everyone's perogative to disagree, but one doesn't have to be a bully when stating opposition.
I tend to not play games. If I like someone, I'll compliment them. Sometimes it is flirting, sometimes it is just to let them know they are valued. I asked one person for a f2f and it felt oddly out of place. I was shut down, albeit in a kind way. It didn't mean an end to our conversations, I just felt like I was put in my place and will wait for him to act. The more I have learned that this is God's plan for men, the more it makes sense.
I never have much thought of a man leading because I always figured it is what they do. I am happy to follow their lead. As a single parent, I am called to step up and be a strong leader. It's not something I am comfortable with, but it is necessary. I've read "War on Men" where the inference is that women, by redefining our roles in society, are leaving men in the lurch. Here we are begging for men do what has been traditionally part of their personna and we're being attacked.
If a man has experienced being asked out by a woman, how did it go? How did it feel? That would be helpful information to me.
Because we are only a picture on a screen, we are easy to be ignored, cut off, overlooked or at times entertained. Unless someone takes the initiative to put a voice and a face to that picture, it appears real manners don't necessarily apply.
I like these forums. I like the opinions and the interactions. I like the people I "meet" on here. I think we just need to remember why we joined in the first place.