Enjoy hurting people? Oh Bill...who are these horrid women? Any why would you or anyone else want to bother with them?
As a comparatively older woman, I find that while I can initiate a conversation, I prefer the man to take the lead. The older we are, the more old-fashioned we tend to be, I suppose. There are exceptions, I'm sure.
There you have it.. Many of us keep saying over and over we want the man to take the lead and they keep coming back and telling us they are being rejected.. THEY ARE NOT CONTACTING ME.. I don't even remember the last time I gave somebody the heave ho.. Kinda hard to do that when NOBODY shows INTEREST..