Hello, so I just wanted to ask this question and get some advice, so here it goes. So I have been tossing around this idea in the back of my head for quite awhile, at first I just thought it was just me being me when I was in a bad mood. However, lately I have started to realize that it seems to be there quite a bit more. The idea is that I am just so introverted, that I cannot have a real relationship and that I should just stop looking and trying. Now before you all say hey whats with the pitty party just hear me out. I was bullied all the way up to high school this left without the ability to be able to socialize very well, especially amongst my peers. My parents liked to take me to their parties and such, so it is very easy to talk with people my parents age. Anyway back to what I was talking about, this has lead me to feel much more comforable when I am by myself, not out with others and especially when I am in a social/dating scenario. This has left me with the belief that dating and relationships are not for me, however, this is the conumdrum. My mind is saying this is better option. My heart, atlhough, feels this is not the case and continues to want me to try these types of things. Now to it's credit I have tried I have put myself out there many many times, I have definitely felt butterflies before, however, my introvertedness and social awkwardness has just messed it up. So much so that if I am lucky enough to go on a date or meet someone face to face, I can count on one hand the number of times I have had a date two.
So guess my question to all of you out there is how can I get my heart to agree with my mind? As I believe in doing so it will make me a much happier person. Thank you all, sorry if this is so long.
Im so sorry you were bullied in school, but it couldnt have been because of your looks. Yikes, what a heartbreaker. If my younger sisters were your age I would have them sign up for CM. Anyway, about the dating thing, you'll do fine as long as you keep trying. If your an intrevert than maybe you need to step out of your comfort zone and when you meet a girl keep up the momentum. Dont give up, remember that feeling of disappointment because you let yourself down. Remember that song .........The eye of the tiger. Put your track suit on and those worn out sneakers and run to the top of the stairs throw your hands in the air and yell out.
Sorry, my mind went into overdrive. Remember......Tiger!