My son was 24 and I had to choose him. I hate it...it feels so wrong. Do you have children?
How about when you have to check your "marital status" and there is no "widowed" box...I refuse to check "single", so I make my own box next to the word "widowed" and then check it really big. :)lol
No children. I do the same thing when there is no box for Widow/Widowed for marital status.
One thing that has helped me is having a large memorial wreath in the living room. My tree is fake so to have a living memorial wreath brings me comfort. I fill it with all his favorite things, including honeymoon pictures and pictures of the kids. Christmas is always a bittersweet holiday without my spouse.
Our priest challenged us to find joy this week. I have to admit, in anticipation of my daughter's sixteenth birthday, I have found a lot of joy as I've been doing 16 surprises this week. Normally her birthday sets off feelings of lonliness as I remember how sweet it was seeing my husband as a father, with Holidays and his birthday all following right behind.
Love and prayers to you all.
If I could skip the months of November and December, I would be fine. I lost John 19 years ago, and I still have my moments. It doesn't take much to make me weepy. So many traditions died when he died and I find that rather sad. I think I mourned John's death more in the later years than at the time of his death. He was suffering so much I was ready to let him go. John always wanted a little girl, and now we have 3 granddaughters he never got to see. I miss that we never got to share the joy of being grandparents together.