Truly, love is a decision...a choice.
One can truly care about someone else...loving him/her, envisioning oneself growing old with the other person. But if that love is not mutual, there will be lots of heartaches!
More and more, I realize how difficult this process can be. You find someone like finding a needle in a haystack but that does not mean much...will that person care about you the way you care about them? Will they remain faithful to you for the rest of their lives?
Scary thoughts but the more I learn about this process, the more I feel compelled to let go of looking, pursuing, and be opened to God's will in my life even if that means that I shall remain by myself for the rest of my life!
Sorry...I hope I made sense.