I was corresponding with a CM guy from another state( he looked me up first) when eventually the emails started getting fewer/shorter, and he really wasn't responding to things I was telling him....I was just getting stock phrases/short answer stuff. I had wondered if we could chat on CM today, and he agreed to. Then he tells me(on 12/6/12) he's going to a church event "with a new friend." (read: new girlfriend or potential girlfriend) So I tried to be nice and give him an out and I said that I had Christmas errands to run and could not chat after all. I said if you want to chat, fine, if not ok, have a good Christmas. He then said "That sounds good to me." Sigh.
Ok, I get that these things happen. People on CM correspond with more than one person, that's what you're supposed to do. Or maybe he met her at an event in his area, she lives closer to him, etc. I'm not trying to fix this, just venting, thanks. Maybe it's a good thing my subscription is up in March. sorry:
Sorry that happened to you, Victoria. It is really deplorable of how men sometimes keep, "a woman in tow," as we say up here in NH. It's a form of dishonesty that I've confronted my guy friends on. If you like her, pursue it, if not, say your not interested--it's the kindest cruelty, but at least it is honest and the manly thing to do. Guys like that play those games as a sort of insurance policy--if one girl doesn't work out, I can always go back to the one I had in tow; such a strategy is intended so they will not become lonely (which is what they really fear) but in the end blows up in their face. Stay strong Victoria (and all other women who have had this happen to them)!