Thank you, Eloise. We'll see... I'm awaiting an annulment decision, still, so long distance "relationship" is really long distance friendship for now.
You have such a pretty name. Thank you again for your thoughts.
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Your points are well taken. I have indeed been asked to start a running group and/or a Bible study at my parish. The running group would be a great fit for my gifts, but I work rotating shifts. Trying to overcome my "clock" being thrown off by odd hours make it difficult to do a whole lot of extra... and participating in regularly-scheduled events is a non-starter. (How many Christ Renews His Parish and That Many Is You meetings have I missed lately...?) My work schedule changes often, so throws a wrench into things. In a number of years from now, I'll promote out of this, perhaps, but for the forseeable future rotating shifts are reality.
I missed the Ministries Fair because of work. Augh!!
So... the situation is a little complex than just simple motivation. The desire is there, but I just can't take on responsibility for an endeavor that requires my routine presence.
Do you have the Meetup online groups there? I think it is national. There are meetup groups for every single interest a person can come up with. You can start one and network through the Meetup organization, gain members, etc. Notifications are easy to send. Maybe you could start a Catholic one that involves activities...a variety of them, religious and non-religious.
I've been learning lately that being single is not a sentence...its easy to see happily married couples with their cute kids and busy lives and crave that but at the same time family is a huge sacrifice and really makes "dying to yourself" to a whole new level. I'm sure married would look at us as singles and crave our freedom.
And while I understand the overpowering feeling of feeling alone at church the fact is we are engaged in the intimate act of partaking in the body and blood of our Lord so use the loneliness to point you to the need for Christ...not that I'm on any platform I sometimes put my focus besides me rather than above.
Michael, I have the same problem. I finally went to a retreat center and met a bunch of different Catholic women from all over...mostly California but also Oregon etc. Quite a few told me about a specific perish in San Francisco. I finally made one of their events. They have a huge, highly active group for 20-30 and another for 30-40's. I found out a lot of people come from all over, different parishes to attend their happy hours, hikes, etc. Ask around, go on retreats etc...maybe there is a different parish that you can attend for special events. I know it is hard with a crazy work schedule and you may have to drive a ways...but if you want to meet someone special, you have to put in the time. Good luck!
Peace to be with Michael. I like to add my words; already noticed insight by others here.
First, I am single too; used to work shift by not anymore, but it was temporary.
Second, I am not yet out of range of those in their 20s but the women get better with age.
3rd-However, look at these women giving feedback who are older than us. We got years to prepare for women like that, no really!
4th-I am HAPPY the Church does not cater to singles. I like to do what others can't do or won't do because of other obligations.
Being single means every little nuance of an encounter with someone has much gravity on the future. Unless the church directly sends women to me, I want to keep the way the Church treats singles just the way it does. Yes, once married I will spend much treasure in the Church. Until then, I am out in alleys, ghettos, and with the lonely where cheer is far away. I can help in anything when single.
5-My brother-in-law started singles group at his military base and met my sister there.
Asking for help is the best first step.
God bless, William
I understand that you want to meet a young woman nearby but since that is not happening just now why not try a LDR. You are young and mobile and there a beautiful young women on these threads.
Just a Grandmother out there making a suggestion.
Michael, I can see your heart is in it to find someone special in your life. Now I must ask the question, given what you have stated, do you have the TIME for a relationship? And if you don't, what would you do to change that if you did find someone?
Cat, this is a very good question and one I have considered lately. The reality is... that working rotating shifts is reality for the long term. It does make relationships a little more difficult, but I am a believer that the right lady and I can get beyond that. It simply requires planning in advance and asking for time off for important events... or for "Date Nights" once married, etc. if the schedule doesn't already accommodate such activities.
I didn't choose to lose my military career of nearly 15 years this year. Was blessed to be hired for a stable job that pays well enough and offers true career potential. Shift work is simply part of the mix.
So... yes, I have time for a relationship. Just have to work around the work schedule...
Clair, good Heavens! ;-) Politics aside... I'm happy to do for myself. Shift work makes it tough. Will consider doing what I can to start a church singles' activity, probably a running club open to all, regardless of my unusual hours.