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HI all -- I'm the aforementioned Ms. Bonacci. Sorry I'm a few weeks late but I just discovered this post. Jason, I think you might want to re-read the column you are referring to. (Here's a link: www.catholicmatch.com You seem to have misunderstood what I was saying. I never said that meeting singles online is "better" than parish groups. I would never say that, because I don't believe it. There is no "better" between the two -- they're just different. I was discussing the attitude that we should bring to meeting other singles -- BOTH online and in person.
I'm glad it sparked discussion, but just want to make sure you're discussing what I actually said :)
Jason, welcome to the site, and welcome to our wonderful Catholic faith! I am a new convert as well... late 2011.
Indeed, there seems to be a lack of single Catholic women 25-40 at every parish I have attended. It is almost as though Catholic ladies marry young and attend church with their families, or marry late and return to attending church after a long hiatus during their single years. What a shame for us Catholic men that we cannot find single Catholic ladies at the best place for them to meet us!!
The Catholic church needs to find a way to deal with this... my opinion. Many of us don't have time to run singles' groups (I work rotating shifts, or would definitely start such a group where I attend.) The Church is losing marriage-aged members to secular society.
I am attending a young adults group--not at my parish--tonight. It is one of the larger ones in my area. I disagree that such groups aren't good places to meet single Catholics. There are many married couples that attend, but I'd be more inclined to pursue a single Catholic girl who attends Young Adults.
This site has been a blessing in many ways, though the ladies I meet are almost all well outside of a reasonable distance for dating. That said, I'd consider a long distance relationship with some of them... assuming my annulment is granted, hopefully soon.
Finding a suitable mate seems entirely a chance occurrence these days, unfortunately. It is easy to give up, but one must keep his chin up.
I actually missed this discussion somehow but I am so glad Mary Beth found it and chimed in. It is disspointing that some people would impugne the motivations of another person without knowing exactly what they said or asking about their motivation. Since Jason and I launched this website in 1999 neither of us have had the opinion that online dating sites are a superior way to meeting someone. As a matter of fact Jason met his wife through our parish while we began building this website. I on the other hand met my wife on CatholicMatch. In both cases the only thing that matters is that we we able to fullfill our vocation to married life regardless of how.
Although Mary Beth is not married she has done as much if not more for single Catholics than anyone I know. There is not a single writer or single staff person at CatholicMatch that believes online dating is a "better" way to meet a spouse. It is simply a way that has become available through technology. In fact I have stated in many interviews over the years that if our culture, local communities and parish life were stronger there would less of a need for online meetings. But we live in the world that we live. I am also not afriand that I realize many people who join CatholicMatch will not meet their future spouse here but even if they meet them some other way we hope their experience on this site will be beneficial either through meeting other single Catholics for dating, community & support or through growing in their faith and as a person via our resources and through interactions with other single Catholics. Our primary purpose is always to do our best to give singles the maximum opportunity to meet other singles for dating but we believe we are responsible to do more as well.
Hope that clears up any confusion that might exist on this topic. Again thanks you Mary Beth for clarifying your position as well.
Welcome to CM and to the Catholic faith!!
It's not an either/or thing. Be open to meeting that special someone anywhere - online, at your parish, in the grocery store, blind date, or where you least expected to meet her.
John you are avery welcome and congrats to you and your sister!