For me this entire thread is ridiculous--I mean, come on, people....
There is a reason why we are all single, and it is abundantly clear from what is being said in this thread.
No one is willing to step up and actually DO anything. In the first instance, this is the men's role, which CM men are abdicating, and that is a pity.
In the second instance, it is a woman's role to "encourage" him (which at most here is sending a note). This is a dance, where everyone has their part to dance, and if no one will dance their part, well, there's gonna be no party here....
So it's a pity, it really is, and if one is called to the vocation of marriage, I think it borders on or even is a sin as well, to not act on one's vocational call to DO SOMETHING so as to allow for it to happen.
You have to give God raw material with which to work.
That is reaching out to someone. After that, it is up to the other person, and to God. Either, and eventually both, have to say "yes" and until that happens, you just keep giving God more "raw material" to work with each day to try and fulfill your vocation.
Send of sermon.