Kathryn-328433 said: Ok, so I'm just going to come right out with it--How do you manage yearning s for physical intimacy? This has become my biggest challenge. I never took a vow of chastity and I yearn for a physical relationship There, I said it. Am I alone in having these feelings? Kate Widowed 5 years, 7 children ages 23, 21, 18, 14, 9, 8, & 8
Join the Club.I've been divorced/seperated annulled 16 years(two daughters)! Manage it through sacrifice,and the Sacraments.
Sorry, I didn't realize this was the Widows and Widowers Room.
Your apology and sensitivity is accepted, Bernard. Thank you for the courtesy of apologizing. May God bless you in all things.
I don't understand this statement at all "While none of these things are bad in and of themselves, when we respond to the passions (using the term in a philosophical sense) in this manner, we become further enslaved to them rather than mastering them." Are you someone that has no desire for physical closeness? After being married - happily - passionately - I just don't understand being "enslaved" by hugging your children and friends and loved ones
Kathryn, thank you for starting this thread - I'm glad to know I'm not alone! I've often wondered if my desires are because we didn't have a very sexual marriage (health issues started before our 1st Anniversary) and she passed before our 5th; or the fact that I'm still young!
For me, I guess keeping busy has been the best way to redirect my thoughts. I also laugh, sometimes uncontrollably when I see my dog humping something. I stop, and look at him, and think "Well I guess I'm not the only sexually frustraited man in this house!". Sometimes the laughter is all I need!
yes. It's difficult. My wife died after 31 years of a wonderful marriage. I try to be with people and I'm looking for a companion/ wife. I try to be good to myself in little ways. Exercise is helpful. I'm sorry for your loss. Day dreaming about sex is sometimes satisfying. I will pray for you and your lovely family.
Ok why would you deny yourself a sexual relationship? Catholics and others seem to view sex as a demon. Catholics have this wrong I believe. The Catholic church was not founded on this premise. This concept came many decades after the formation of the church. It makes for a very wierd dynamic when a priest is providing guidance to a lay individual. My feeling, not my advice, is to find a warm emotional stable sexual relationship that makes you happy. Physical intimacy is part of living. It is God's gift. it is what makes a human in part. Like anything else it can be abused. Wanting intimacy can not be addressed by prayer or sarafice. It can only be addressed intimacy.
Enjoy your life. It will end all too soon.