Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.
Tobias and Sarah's story is from the Book of Tobit, and his journey is guided by Saint Raphael.
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OK, then show a LOT of leg. j/k.
I'm waiting for someone without a sense of humor to accuse y'all of being sexist. lol
Back in 'the day' I remember somebody's picture of his legs getting a lot of play.,.
It is second nature to open doors for people. Occasionally some woman sneers at me and I'll (sotto voice) "After you -- there may be snipers."
For older couples coming into church I'll put up my hand and say, "Sir! Is your date under age? I'll need to see some ID."
The door thing can be lots of fun.
Hi Lina! I used to tell a former boyfriend that I wanted him to need me because he wanted me not want me because he needed me! I think we all need other people - wanting someone is a little different. To add to that, I don't know how to care about someone without doing things for them. Chelle
As Pope John Paul II tells us in "the Theology of the Body" we are called to communion with the "other"... for those called to marriage that is the special someone of the opposite sex. When people ask "what is the meaning of life" it is a deep and meaningful relationship with God and with the "other".
It is not a matter of "needing" someone it is what we were made for. Eve was made for Adam and they were called to:
"Therefore a man leaves his father and his mother and clings to his wife, and they become one flesh" (Genesis 2:24).
It is the most romantic thing you can imagine.
A male-female relationship is not supposed to be a party to fornication or adultery but a "mutual self giving".
I would say it is not that "they thrive on attention" but they appreciate sincere thanks. Adult men do too.
Also, when I was young man it made me feel like a hero when a women did that for me but don't use the same technique to manipulate; at a certain age we catch on to that too and the desire to do it diminishes.
The "hero" in men (adolescent and adult) is described in the "Theology of the Body" by Pope John Paul the II. The sincere thanks is described in the "5 Love languages" by a Christian author. It is called "words of affirmation." (Search 5 Love Languages on the internet and take the free test to see which combination of the 5 Love Languages you are.)
Yes, I teach high school too - I teach Juniors and yesterday I made the mistake of asking a big football player to help move something heavy - forgetting that he was having SURGERY the next day. Someone reminded me and I felt terrible and wanted him to put him down. I think he would have carried for two more hours before putting it down! Such a sweet young man!
A great long hug and a kiss... and sincere thanks (with a smile) in what we do (while looking in our eyes). Telling other people how we help out wether we are there or not.
When I ask you out, say either yes or no. Don't say yes but tell me how busy you are for the next few weeks. Also, if you truly are busy, then tell me when you likely will be free and when to call, if you truly want to go out. It doesn't have to be anything more than lunch or coffee.
I'll do my best to be a gentleman and impress you, but if I forget something or screw up, cut me a break and appreciate the sincere effort.
If I make a plan, go along with it and be a good sport. If it's something I enjoy and want you to be part of, appreciate the sentiment.
Don't nag or criticize me; if you see something that I should change or improve upon, use Christian charity. It will go much further.
Let it be about us, not our friends; as it said in a CM article earlier, quoting Michael Jackson, "Ain't nobody's business but mine and my baby's."
If there's a problem, let's both approach it selflessly with the intent of focusing on the problem and solve it together.
I will love showing you off in public, but sometimes the best moments occur curled up on the couch eating takeout and watching movies.
As a bachelor, I'm not the best at picking out clothes, so go shopping with me.
All I need to see is a smile and hear a thank you. A hug or even a touch is plenty to let me know how I'm doing.
OK, that's enough wearing my heart on my sleeve; anything further and my fellow Cavemen will pull my Man Card.
An excellent list. I wholeheartedly agree -- especially about the not-a-good-dresser thing. I definitely need a lady's help picking out good clothes. I don't make fashion statements, I make fashion questions.