Thank you for the compliment.
John. I love the new photo. I didn't even recognize you before.
Today must be a day for new photos.
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Remind us, John, that you need things to be direct. Also, read The Five Love Languages. Find out what her's is. This is huge, understanding what 'fills' the other person, what shows her you love her. My friend's husband changes the oil in the car and washes it and now that she understands that is his special way of showing love for her vs. flowers for instance, she can respond accordingly to his loving acts. He, on the other hand, might 'work on' flowers for her because she would really feel love from that gesture.
That's not a good sign. To me, it means they are not secure and confident that what they want is the right thing, therefor they are unwilling to step forward and say what they want or need. Maybe I'm wrong. But it seems like it is easier when both people are crystal clear about what they want and need from a relationship.
John, a lot of women are highly intuitive. We pay attention to the details in mannerisms. It's probably a maternal thing as we tend to babies that can't tell us what is wrong. So, when our spouse comes home from work tired, we see it before he tells us, and have him sit down while we get him a beverage. When our child is frustrated with homework, we know when to offer assistance or a much needed break. All these things we do without a second thought because we care.
It is disconcerting to not have someone see that we are tired or ill or need a break. It can seem that the other doesn't really care. I think this changes as we mature and have realize the differences between men and women. My son can't see a garbage can overflowing, instead it is a challenge to see how much he can teeter on the top. My husband couldn't read my emotions, and if I didn't tell him directly what I needed, he would pile more on top of me.
There is no right or wrong here and not everyone is the same. It is just one of the beautiful differences between the sexes. If men were concerned about how everyone was feeling, they would lose that edge needed to fight wars or protect their families or climb the corporate ladder. JMHO.
Hi John I love your new profile picture. Stay true to who you are and the right woman will come along - good luck. Your smile speaks volumes.