So many wonderful responses. Thank you very much. I have no intention of giving up, it was more or less an observation that I found rather puzzling.
I'm a bit of a curious one. Computer programmer, geek of all trades, but also someone who enjoys camping, kayaking, sailing, swimming and biking. Not so much expecting an answer as much as positing a quandry to the world. There are two dating sites I frequent: Catholic Match is one, and Geek2Geek is the other. Personally, I prefer the style and layout, and inhabitants of CM. When I search through people in my area, I see plenty of kind individuals listed, but unfortunately no one seems to identify as a gamer beyond enjoying the occaisional movie. On the other hand, when I go to gk2gk, I see plenty of matches for women who are into Harry Potter, Doctor Who, video gaming and the like, but not one, not one who is Catholic.
This raises an interesting (if false) dichotomy. The appearance is that being geeky and being Catholic are mutually exclusive, but I don't buy that. Am I putting too much weight into common interest? I was always taught (and I firmly believe) that there can be no love without friendship, and friendships are formed on the basis of common (or at least compatible) interest. Religion is something I can't compromise on in a relationship (I tried once and it didn't end well, even though the Church would have allowed the wedding), but on the same note, I feel someone who isn't a geek is going to be put off by my hobbies, since roleplaying, gaming etc carries such a social stigma to it.
Am I crazy, or am I making this harder than it has to be?
Well, to answer your questions, perhaps! Honestly, Craig, I am confused. Is your profile up to date? It says that you are unemployed. If that is the case, it seems you would want to rectify your employment situation first before embarking on looking for a girlfriend and or wife. Or, am I wrong? Have times changed that much?
I do know quite a few gamers. Sadly, I cannot think of any that are in good Christian relationships. So, perhaps you are correct. On the other hand, my dad always talks about how much he loves auto racing. He spent a lot of time in the pits as a crewman. He married and says that we, the kids, got in the way of his hobby. He still enjoys auto racing. He once owned a track where we were all employed. He enjoys attending races and watching them on tv. However, I doubt his hobby takes up as much time as it did when he was single. My mom used to go to a few races with him. I have a brother and a son who share his interest.My dad is 76 and most of his time is spent at work with Sunday afternoons to tinker on cars.
Isn't there a verse in the Bible about putting away young man's things?
I did update my profile, but I've been waiting for it to actually go through the tubes to take effect. I'm employed as a Systems Programmer for a weather forecasting company, and have been for some time. I'd assume around the Christmas vacation that the updates will be a bit slow.
For the sake of an academic debate, I would have to disagree with you about the young mans things; I am one of the ones who sees Video Games as an art form. It depends on what you play really, just like any medium there is trash, which is what most of the truly violent ones are (the ones I don't bother with). But the best ones, and the ones I mostly mean are the ones that use the interactive nature of the medium to evoke emotions that couldn't be done with books or movies, or to tell a twisting narrative that couldn't be achieved otherwise. Perfect example: The Mass Effect series builds your story over time, such that each decision you make impacts the remainder of the experience. The narrative you follow is tailored to your choices, some of which at times can be emotionally gripping, heartfelt because unlike in a book, the decision falls to you. Others present stories deep enough that they have been the subject of literary debate in academic circles (To that I cite Xenogears). I guess the point I am making is that they are not necessarily young mans things any more than reading a book is. :) Sorry if I went on a bit, I always find it an interesting subject to talk about when someone asks if games are for kids.