I love the many blogs and ebooks from Dr. Huizenga. Here a quote from one his blogs:
"As well, marriage is given to us to develop, to mature, to evolve over the course of our years here on
this planet. Marriage is not an end...whereby we achieve happiness. Marriage presents its
developmental challenges, from the first child, to the first teenager, to the last child leaving home, to
retirement, to preparing for death. And, in those processes we may experience further challenges of the
death of someone close, bankruptcy, vocational failure, health problems and yes.... infidelity!
Marriage is a process, a growing process, filled with trials, temptations, anger, passion, boredom.. you
name it. We in the marriage continue to "use" the imperfections of our partner to move us forward in
terms of our standards, values, beliefs, and well-being."