Well, I'm glad nobody is directly putting any words into my mouth. Although, some are still missing the point, and are insisting on combativeness. Perhaps my original post should have said, "One option is biting the bullet and remaining single until the kids have grown up." Heck, you won't get any argument from me that the spouses should take care of each other so as to nurture the marriage, which in turn provides for its stability, which, finally, in turn, supports the stability of children. Phew! What are all of these arguments about?
I think it began when my original post raised the hackles of another poster who took great offense to the notion that it might be a good idea, also, to consider the failure rate of second and third marriages, and, to focus on raising the children. This was a highly popular idea on talk radio decades ago; today, however, it gets obfuscated by statements like, "Well, how are your kids ever going to learn to succed at marriage unless you show 'em...so do it again and do it right, for the kids' sake." Not only that, but people here have taken the CCC and twisted it to somehow have a retroactive application to subsequent marriages, when I don't buy that at all, and anybody without an axe to grind wouldn't buy it either. God didn't make the plan one that would fail if we followed it, and this is what the CCC teaches us. Am I saying He doesn't give second chances or allow you to begin again--NOOOOOOOOO!
It just amazes me that people are having such a difficult time with "biting the bullet" and teaching your kids how they can succeed where we might have failed. It also escapes me that so many optimistically believe that the blending of children is so utterly easy (wishful thinking?) when statistics don't bear this out.
There will be no evidence forthcoming that would prove to me a) the Church's catechetical teachings about marriage also somehow encourages re-marriage, or b) that remaining single for the kids' sake, and caring in community for each other, is suddenly something from which the Church has distanced itself.
Still, feel free to re-marry if you've achieved the annulment, but please don't reinvent Church teaching because you might not agree with my traditional approach to this problem, and please don't assume that people who choose to delay remarriage are somehow damaged goods who haven't yet resolved feelings of pain or anger.