God bless you Ms. Michelle.
Concering the topic: this is what my parents have advised me. "Ask yourself this question, are you willing and without any doubt that you will accept the child as your own and love him regardless what may happen in the future? In the even of dispute, are you willing to be patient and kind to the child?" These questions sound extremely easy but in reality it is extremely difficult to do. Especially, when you hear the words such as "You are not my father, why should I listen to you" or "What do you want? Step Father's Full Name" ...etc. I know that I don't have the heart for this type of situation. Therefore, I personally keep distance from it.
Dating may be find but If it is a long term relationship you are looking for just be up front with the person. Don't even try to pretend that the child does not exist. I think having a take it or leave it mind set will be most helpful in your situation. Ask the person what will he do simply be honest to yourself and to the person you are dating.