Okay.. Does this mean that a young man or woman who may have had a medical history and knows they cannot have a child should remove themselves from possibility of marriage? Where is the line drawn? Over 50 and anyone who knows they are sterile? What about the people among those who 'can't' get married because they are sterile, but feel no particular calling to be a 'minister' of the Church? And how does one determine whether it's a calling from God? Is he going to tell us? How will he tell us? A voice in the middle of the night waking us up from a dead sleep?
Do you think there is a Church teaching somewhere that tells us we are to live our 'after procreative' years alone?.. If there was, Jerry would have no problem telling us where to find it in the Catechism..I guarantee you that..
Yes, those are the things I'd welcome a discussion on. It used to be, during biblical times a widow was considered a homeless woman. An orphan was her child. Times have changed, we are no longer "taken" into the homes of our husband's brother after he dies to be cared for and looked after.
Younger, infertile couples still have the option to adopt. Granted, while that is still an option for, and many older couples accept the call to raise their own grandchildren, it is an exceptional undertaking and not the usual course of action. So, what is the "purpose" of an older couple seeking marriage. While there are certainly several motivating factors and benefits, does it do anything fertile in the eyes of the church?
Both my grandmothers were widowed fairly young, like myself. Neither sought to remarry and both lived into their 90's. One felt marriage was too much work, the other had already had the love of her life and that was good enough for her. Both fulfilled their obligations of a Catholic marriage. I differ in that I want to marry again. Am I being selfish or is there a purpose in feeling this way?