I was wondering what are the rules of engagement for dating in the Catholic church. What is considered exceptable and not?
When traveling do we have to get two seperate rooms or sleeping on two seperate beds okay?
Or what are the rules of physical intimacy (obviously sex is out of the question) but what about making out?
Or any random things that a non practicing Catholic would take for granted...
My guess is you already know the answer and are asking in hope someone will tell you you're wrong. Sadly, there are some who will, but you are better off listening to your conscience.
Keep in mind that the ultimate goal is to preserve your purity and that of the person you are dating. Not just the purity of the body, but also of the mind and the soul. If you've sinned against purity in the past, you don't want to do so any more. Keep in mind that these sins are not just breaking some arbitrary rule -- each and every one contributes to Jesus' suffering while He lived on earth and they offend God now. While we can't avoid every temptation in life, we do want to (and are obligated to) avoid those we can by not putting ourselves in situations we know will lead to them. Thus, no sleeping in the same room (separate beds or not) and no "making out."
Some will tell you that only immature people can't control themselves, with the implication being in the midst of the temptation. In reality, the spiritually mature person no more voluntarily walks into the temptation of sexual passion than a mature person would stand in the middle of a freeway or walk into a burning building for the sake of some passing thrills. Just because you've resisted before doesn't mean you'll be able to resist this time. Each time you ignore your conscience and willfully play chicken with Satan, you make it that much harder to hear your conscience the next time; you erode the walls protecting your soul. You conscience may not go silent, the walls may not fall this time, then next time, or the time after that. But eventually they will.
Moral theology teaches that it is a grave sin to willfully place ourselves in temptation of grave sin without just cause, and that if we unexpectedly find ourselves in a situation of temptation then we must immediately remove ourselves from the source. It doesn't matter if we think we can, or even if we do, continue and resist the temptations.
The best way to think of sin is not as a check-list of things to avoid or a line in the sand not to cross, but as something to turn and run away from. Is this easy? No, but the more we do it the more graces we receive and the easier it becomes. Conversely, the more we play with fire, the harder it is to stop the next time.