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Discussion related to living as a Catholic in the single state of life. As long as a topic is being discussed from the perspective of a single Catholic then it will be on-topic.

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Jan 4th 2013 new

(Quote) Susan-912350 said: Patricia, you used the phrase "false assumptions" which fits perfectly for your camping questi...
(Quote) Susan-912350 said: Patricia, you used the phrase "false assumptions" which fits perfectly for your camping question. We need to consider what our actions, however innocent they may be, look to the people around us. By sharing a tent or room, you give others a possible false impression of the situation. We lead by example and others shouldn't be led to confusion by that example. Others don't know if you two are being chaste behind closed door or tent flap. Unfortunately most will assume the worst-- false assumptions.
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The term for this is scandal (which I mention because it can be readily researched in many sources, such as the Catechism).

Jan 4th 2013 new

(Quote) Chris-930705 said: My specific advice: I've traveled with female friends over the years, with whom I have no rom...
(Quote) Chris-930705 said:

My specific advice: I've traveled with female friends over the years, with whom I have no romantic interest in the least. I've also traveled with women I was dating. In both cases, we've sometimes shared hotel rooms, the same as we would share each other's company in the car or across a table in a restaurant. But if that ever started to cause problems, or provoke temptation, I'd offer to pay for two rooms. Not because it's the rule, but because it's prudent.

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The problem is that sharing sleeping quarters such as a room, tent, etc. is not comparable to riding together in an automobile or sharing a table in a restaurant. The truly prudent course would be to travel with someone of the same sex. Obtaining separate rooms for traveling companions of different sexes is better than sharing one room; however, there is still a close enough proximity that it could be problematic in some circumstances (unless the rooms are at opposite ends of the hotel, for example).

Jan 4th 2013 new

(Quote) Timothy-240636 said: Ray...Very well said. I need to add no more to your most succinct response! Danke!
(Quote) Timothy-240636 said:

Ray...Very well said. I need to add no more to your most succinct response! Danke!

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Thank you, Timothy. It's too bad though because I enjoy the wisdom you display in your posts.

Jan 4th 2013 new

(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: The problem is that sharing sleeping quarters such as a room, tent, etc. is not comparabl...
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said:

The problem is that sharing sleeping quarters such as a room, tent, etc. is not comparable to riding together in an automobile or sharing a table in a restaurant. The truly prudent course would be to travel with someone of the same sex. Obtaining separate rooms for traveling companions of different sexes is better than sharing one room; however, there is still a close enough proximity that it could be problematic in some circumstances (unless the rooms are at opposite ends of the hotel, for example).

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Sometimes even separation won't work. It seems if people are bent on mischief, they'll find a way no matter what.

Jan 4th 2013 new

(Quote) Ray-566531 said: (Quote) Jerry-74383 said: The problem is that sharing sleeping quar...
(Quote) Ray-566531 said:

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Jerry-74383 said:

The problem is that sharing sleeping quarters such as a room, tent, etc. is not comparable to riding together in an automobile or sharing a table in a restaurant. The truly prudent course would be to travel with someone of the same sex. Obtaining separate rooms for traveling companions of different sexes is better than sharing one room; however, there is still a close enough proximity that it could be problematic in some circumstances (unless the rooms are at opposite ends of the hotel , for example).


Sometimes even separation won't work. It seems if people are bent on mischief, they'll find a way no matter what.

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Really??? Do you boys think seperate coasts would be far enough apart to remove one from the near occassion of sin?? rolling eyes scratchchin

Jan 4th 2013 new

(Quote) Linda-624584 said: Really??? Do you boys think seperate coasts would be far enough apart to remove one from the near...
(Quote) Linda-624584 said:

Really??? Do you boys think seperate coasts would be far enough apart to remove one from the near occassion of sin??

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Hi Linda! Then, the name would have to be changed to far occasion of sin!! wink Chelle

Jan 4th 2013 new

(Quote) Linda-624584 said: Really??? Do you boys think seperate coasts would be far enough apart to remove one from the near...
(Quote) Linda-624584 said:

Really??? Do you boys think seperate coasts would be far enough apart to remove one from the near occassion of sin??

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wave Nope, Linda, even separate coasts isn't "far enough apart" if there's Skype.... rolling eyes

Jan 4th 2013 new

Patricia, I am so glad that you are seeking wisdom. I am familiar with Jersey Shore, the MTV generation, how the Internet how allowed people to become addicted to pornography, lead double lives....all of that. People who do not live deeply in the dominant culture have no idea what's out there, how deeply troubled things are in our society. Overall, you are receiving good advice and some humor thrown in, too, in this thread. God bless you for treasuring your soul and taking care of your body, your mind and your future. And I hope that some guys your age are cluing in to your good sense and dating potential!

Jan 7th 2013 new
Thank you Jerry. The word scandal was in my mind the whole time I was writing it but wasn't sure how to phrase it.
Jan 7th 2013 new

(Quote) Patricia-925069 said: I was wondering what are the rules of engagement for dating in the Catholic church. What is co...
(Quote) Patricia-925069 said:

I was wondering what are the rules of engagement for dating in the Catholic church. What is considered exceptable and not?

For example:

When traveling do we have to get two seperate rooms or sleeping on two seperate beds okay?

Or what are the rules of physical intimacy (obviously sex is out of the question) but what about making out?

Or any random things that a non practicing Catholic would take for granted...

Thank you!

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Not sure if you read this blog but I will post here... Hope this helps.. It has some good advice.. Blessings as we try to not lead another into tempation.. God be with us in our dating and pray before going out.. Keep God center and not our own selfish desires.. That's all I can think of for now.. Blessings... Kathleen Praying rosary theheart
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