I am really confused by some of the comments I've seen in the forums lately? Why is a lady declared "overly cautious" just because she wants to spend some time chatting w/a gentleman here on CM instead of immediately giving out her phone number? And on the flip side, I've seen comments saying that if a gentleman invites a lady to chat here on CM too many times that it could be considered stalking.
So a lady is bad if she won't give out her phone number to someone who's almost a complete stranger and a man is bad because he wants to chat here on an "anonymous" site?
And why is chatting considered bad anyways? It's live communication, correct? So what if it doesn't work perfectly? It's just technology-get a grip folks.
I know I for one am not giving out my phone number to every Tom, Dick, and Harry who asks for it; with my phone number a guy could look up my address! No thanks! Every other online dating site I've ever been to says to be cautious with your personal information; why do so many here at Catholic Match seem to go against that advice?
And before someone asks-yes I am actually looking to find a spouse, not just be a "penpal" to someone. When I'm comfortable with a gentleman and feel the time is right, probably after we've been exchanging messages and chatting for at least a month, I'll give him my direct contact information. But until then, that's the reason I just paid for an account here instead of just using a free site. Here I feel relatively "safe" because a guy can't find out all the nitty, gritty details about me until I'm ready to share them.