You, Chelle, and Bob have good insights. First of all, if we think of the Mass, a part of it is intended to give thanks for what we have, remembering it did not come from us, or others, but from Him. This is how we should begin each day or at least devote some time to this way of thinking during the day, or even several times.
There are a number of people in this world who are genuinely hurting, including some of our sister and brother CM members. But...we're still here which indicates we have a purpose to fulfill. Sometimes our wounds are self-inflicted, or self-induced, and our focus is upon our hurts and wants, rather than we we've been given. We need to see beyond that. No -- I didn't say it's always easy to do that.
It's amazing how people who have nothing or very little cling intensely to their faith -- believing that the Good Lord will see them through their miseries. I see this happening with homeless people right in our back yard. There's an inner strength by which they pull through day by day.
You hit upon a thought that some people should bear in mind: "finding a spouse would be an additional blessing, not an answer." While it's true that a spouse could ease some people's burdens and would be a blessing, it's their own fortitude that keeps them going on their own, as difficult as life's problems might be. You need to be at your best in order to be a good mate. One needs to be ready to accept what's involved in marriage -- giving, not taking.
It's easier to say this during good times, but, if done often enough, we can say it when rough times hit. If we have a bad day, most assuredly the sun will still come up tomorrow. Use part of the day to serve others, which can be done through prayer and other assistance when possible. It adds meaning and purpose to your own life.
"You need to be at your best in order to be a good mate. One needs to be ready to accept what's involved in marriage -- giving, not taking."
Very True, Ray! (Are we EVER going to see you in Indy? )