OOPS! My alzheimer's is showing. I was replying to Christine's post - don't know where I got Sandra!!??!!
Thanks for your good wishes Beverly - and yes, I would go for a 70 year old - 78 - that's pushing it haha - I went out with a 67 year old and he was way too stodgy - yes, it's about the individual. But, I still think over 70 has less of a chance to have things in common with me. God bless us one and all :)
I do not believe in setting any set age preferences. You should want to be with a very spiritual partner( along with common interests), and sharing this sprituality together. If that is with someone older, someone younger, or the same age, it should not matter. Being together on a wonderful spiritual path with God leading the way, is what we all should strive for. Age just should not matter.
Well said, Rick. Welcome to the fora.
It's great genes.. My maternal grandparents lived into their 90's still independently in their own homes..My mother passed away from cancer at 66, but had been a smoker until her early 50's.. She also had fear of going to the doctor and waited too long so her cancer was metastisized. My father is living independently at age 84.. His two older siblings passed away in 2011 at ages 87 and 85, respectively.. he had two younger, that passed away younger, but they had a different mother and her family didn't have the longevity my dad's paternal side did.. Most people don't guess my father to be 84 nor me to be 60.. I don't let them get close enough to see the crows feet..
After 50, overall health declines, especially in people who have lived an unhealthy lifestyle. Look at all the health screenings recommended by doctors at around 50. The differences in health and fitness become more stark as we age. When comparing a healthy candidate to an unhealthy one, most will trend towards the healthy person who often tends to be younger. This is human nature. For our age group, when faced with a potential partner who is older and in declining health, we see our own fate, as if in a mirror, and the majority of people will turn to someone younger and healthier to avoid having to deal with it. It's not pretty, but it is human nature and you and I are just as likely to react this way as the next person.
I agree with you about health over 50 when you look at the stats of people here in the US; most live an unhealthy lifestyle. I can say for sure that I am healthier this year than I was last year because I have a healthier diet and am associating with people that live a healthier lifestyle. I know some people that will not go to a traditional doctor and will not take prescription drugs because traditional medicine doesn't treat the cause of the problem and is usually a quick fix that might lead to more health problems. I agree that we all like to be with someone healthy but most people can be healthy and active even in their 80's!
Food for thought:
Have you ever met someone in your daily life that you may not have thought attractive that just by conversation and getting to know them became more attractive because of who they are on the inside? Maybe an overweight individual just needs a reason to exercise? Maybe an introvert want to be a little more extroverted but someone who will give them the opportunity could be a God send? Have you ever thought that not all people are photogenic? (I feel that way). Could you be patient enough to teach someone who might have an interest in something that you truly enjoy? Are you willing to "give in" to the opposites likes as well?
Would love to know what nice Catholic men are looking for out there. Would love to read some positive online dating stories and what attracted you to one another online, etc.
Thanks for your post. I agree totally which is what I have been trying to point out. Is the priest wrong?? I honestly don't know I can only go by my experience and talking with other women.
I totally trust God with this mate issue, if He wants to give me a partner He will and can. In the meantime I just live my life accordingly. I do feel however that our "world" today has become extremely obsessed with physical apprearance, money, success, age, occupation, etc....
If you choose to limit God, then you may be waiting for a very, very long time for a suitable compatable partner. Incidentally, I will just let you know, that I just got yet another email from another Catholic site i was on he is 74...................
Hi Susan, Thanks for your message, FYI I had two men private message me telling me I was absolutely right.!!!
Women Rock!! Debbie