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Jan 17th 2013 new

(Quote) John-746882 said: Hey Daniel buddy, For me, most recently, now almost two months ago, we had lunch at a place similar to wh...
(Quote) John-746882 said: Hey Daniel buddy, For me, most recently, now almost two months ago, we had lunch at a place similar to what you described. I dressed nice but not too formal. We went for a walk and stopped for ice cream. In the ice cream store, a young boy who worked there entertained us with his rendition of Bill Murray's lounge singer. I agree being your best self is the way to go. It was only a couple hours, but a really nice way to get started. I think if it's a first meeting, just meet, make a friend, and see what happens. God is good. I hope you and all in this thread are hugely blessed in 2013! John
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Thanks, John! That's the key...relaxing and being myself.

Blessings to you in 2013, too!

Jan 17th 2013 new

(Quote) Chelle-924354 said: Good luck, and Happy Birthday!
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Good luck, and Happy Birthday!

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Thanks, Chelle! The years are piling up.

Jan 17th 2013 new

(Quote) Mary-530106 said: Happy Birthday Daniel! Good luck with your date. You mention she is an artist. Any art gall...
(Quote) Mary-530106 said:

Happy Birthday Daniel!

Good luck with your date. You mention she is an artist. Any art galleries or exhibits in the area she might like to go to after lunch? I like the small arrangement of flowers. Don't forget to smile-you have a nice smile.

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Thank you, Mary!

Jan 17th 2013 new

(Quote) Naomi-825244 said: And Happy Birthday, late, Danie!
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And Happy Birthday, late, Danie!

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Thanks, Naomi!

Jan 17th 2013 new

(Quote) Justin-32820 said: (Quote) Daniel-827401 said: Ladies, if you were my first date, what would ...
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Ladies, if you were my first date, what would you like me to do for you? What would make you feel extra special? Would a small gift or a small vase of flowers (not roses) be OK? Would you feel safer and more comfortable if we met at the restaurant as opposed to me coming by your place to pick you up? If we were meeting for lunch at a popular cafe-style restaurant, ie., Panera Bread, what would appropriate dress be? If we have a great time, and the chemistry is there, what would be an appropriate ending for a memorable first date?

At the same time, what would you hope that I wouldn't do on our first date? What would turn you off? What would guarantee that there wouldn't be a second date?

I have to brush up on my manners--and remember to use them. After all, this isn't another night out with the boys.

Guys, what has worked for you? What hasn't?

Thanks in advance for any sage advice!


HI Daniel,

I would stay away from the flowers idea, I've known guys who have done this and it never comes of very well. You don't want to create pressure on the first date, but if you want to go with a gift make is somthing small, cute and maybe funny, like that bag of M&M's example.


Make sure you pick a place that is close to other activies, that you can walk too or a short drive so if the dates going well make sure you have some ideas in mind to keep it going. Do your best to listen to what she is saying and try to ask thoughtful follow up questions.

Most important just relax and have fun, if you do that everything will take care of itself.

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Thanks, Justin! That's key...just relax, meet a new friend and have some fun.

Jan 17th 2013 new

(Quote) Shara-929649 said: I guess I am old fashioned but I love flowers. In my opinion it shows that a guy ...
(Quote) Shara-929649 said:

I guess I am old fashioned but I love flowers.

In my opinion it shows that a guy respects my femininity and that he cares enough to make the effort to treat me like a gentleman. I need a gentleman. That being said I did give the disclaimer that I am old fashioned and proably not like most girls. I happen to like the idea of being courted the old fashioned way. The M &Ms might throw me for a bit of a loop as I am not a big fan of chocolate.

My advice is to find out what kind of girl she is and make sure the date caters to making feel that who she is as woman is important to you. Women love to feel like the woman in the relationship and that you are able to take charge ( in a good way). Why do you think that men like Mr. Darcy and Prince Charming are popular? We might try to pretend that this is not the case but most ( alright maybe many)women want that. I think that deep down inside most of the feminists might as well. But what do I know? It is only my opinion.

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Thanks, Shara! I hope to treat her like a princess.

Jan 17th 2013 new

(Quote) Joanna-615441 said: (Quote) Daniel-827401 said: Ladies, if you were my first date, what would you li...
(Quote) Joanna-615441 said:
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Daniel-827401 said:

Ladies, if you were my first date, what would you like me to do for you? What would make you feel extra special? Would a small gift or a small vase of flowers (not roses) be OK? Would you feel safer and more comfortable if we met at the restaurant as opposed to me coming by your place to pick you up? If we were meeting for lunch at a popular cafe-style restaurant, ie., Panera Bread, what would appropriate dress be? If we have a great time, and the chemistry is there, what would be an appropriate ending for a memorable first date?

At the same time, what would you hope that I wouldn't do on our first date? What would turn you off? What would guarantee that there wouldn't be a second date?

I have to brush up on my manners--and remember to use them. After all, this isn't another night out with the boys.

Guys, what has worked for you? What hasn't?

Thanks in advance for any sage advice!




Ditto most of the advice here; ask me questions, but not simple one word answer type of questions. If you and I have already connected on line, then there are areas we have already discussed. It's okay to tell me you are nervous, it will make me feel better about being nervous myself.

Please do not fidgit, it becomes distracting to me and I have a hard time concentrating on you. If you talk with your hands when you get nervous (I do), then grab your glass with both hands (that's what I do). Get to know my personality before we meet. I am a choleric so I enjoy some fun banter and witty conversation. If you make me smile, we will both relax and enjoy each-other more (THAT guarantees a second date!) If your date is a little shy, then that means you may have to work a little harder to keep the conversation going. You don't have to compliment everything about me, but do notice something and make a sincere comment. It makes me feel attractive.

And yes, be yourself, connect with the wait staff and smile at the kiddies, it shows me you are genuine and real.

And if we had a great time, please don't wait more than 2 days to call and tell me so.
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Thanks, Joanna! The hard part will be following up with a phone call.

Jan 17th 2013 new

(Quote) Angela-374523 said: Hi Daniel, Great questions. I think how our popular culture puts a lot of pressure on the...
(Quote) Angela-374523 said:

Hi Daniel,

Great questions. I think how our popular culture puts a lot of pressure on the first date to be some magical romantic production that has to be over-the-top in how it moves two people into a half-conscious trance of love at first sight intimidates a lot of people. It’s just a first date. Neither person is appearing on a TV show during the date. Although, going to a taping of a cooking show if you live in an area where they do that might be a nice first date, but a live taping of COPS - not so much. Anyway, back to your questions.

On a first date, I think the gentleman’s presence would be enough of a gift for me. Gifts are more of a personal thing after you get to know each other a little bit better.

As for what to wear, it is nice if the gentleman makes an effort to be presentable - clean and neat, though not necessarily formal, depending on where it is. Dress for the location and the occasion is good advice.

For first dates, meeting at the restaurant or location is more comfortable. It takes some time to get to know someone and become comfortable enough to welcome someone into one’s life a little bit at a time, including getting picked up or dropped off at one’s residence, or meeting friends or relatives.

A first date can be stressful, so unless one or both parties say or do something horribly offensive, I would not write it off as a disaster. So if there is no kiss, nor a warm embrace (still chaste) nor a promise to meet again in the next 48 hours, I wouldn’t despair. It’s just a first date. One or both of you may need to think about whether you'd like a second date. It's an opportunity to start to get to know each other better. Hopefully there will be many more dates to shower each other with gifts, attend more formal events together, share events and outings together, and build a lasting relationship.

As for what to avoid, the list could be too numerous, so I'll just sum it up by saying that it's always a good idea for both people to listen to their mother and mind their manners.

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Thank you so much, Angela! I feel better after reading what you shared.

Jan 18th 2013 new

(Quote) Angela-374523 said: Although, going to a taping of a cooking show if you live in an area where...
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Although, going to a taping of a cooking show if you live in an area where they do that might be a nice first date, but a live taping of COPS - not so much. Anyway, back to your questions.

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Note to self: Don't bring her on a ride-along for a first date. Got it! laughing

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