I agree with both Cathy and Kathy. I think that cuddling is a natural expression of love that I too share with my kids all the time. The guy I spent time with at Fran Univ was an extremely chaste and by the books fella ( the good books-that is the bible and catechism) and we cuddled all the time and we stayed chaste. I know this as we had very open and honest discussions about everything because we shared an intense praylife together and protecting each others souls was our goal.
Sometimes while praying together during our hour of adoration we would put our arms around each other while we prayed the rosary or the divine mercy chaplet or even when just sitting in the quiet contemplating Christ. It was praying in onesness. Sometimes we would even put our arms around each other during mass especially in the time of prayer in the pews after recieving Jesus. While that relationship did not work out due to outside circumstances ( not able to share as it is not mine to share), it was a time of love and growth in Christ that was something that I cherish and it was an extremely chaste relationship to say the least. We were both in regular confession and spiritual direction and neither of our directors had problems with it. to answer the coming questions both of our directors were conservative.
If you are with a guy who due to his past has issues with touch then I would of course respect his struggle and not engage in anything that would jeopardize his soul. If you are in that position then I think that of course avoiding the occassion for sin is always absolutely necessary. However I do not agree that cuddling is ALWAYS an unchaste action. By the way I went to school with Jason Everet and he cuddled chastely.
In Minnesota we cuddle for survival. Sharing body heat is essential to growing old.
I have dated two men who were 'Touch me Nots' I am a 'toucher'. I am very physically affectionate in a relationship..One of these did not even like to kiss and told me I liked to kiss 'too much'.. He was 37 when we dated and passed away in his early 50's never married. He achieved a lot in his career as a radio journalist, won lots of awards, but his private life was empty.. I didn't know there was such a thing as kissing too much when you love someone.. His lack of physical affection broke our relationship as I suspect it broke the one before me.. You want to talk about 'Gifting' though. He would give the shirt off his back... But most women don't want gifts in an absence of affection.