(Quote) Lauren-927923 said:
Hi Marion, I've pondered this myself. I tend to be a talker and that also translates into wordy when in written form. I also tend to be pretty transparent so I share. I think however there is an expectation already in place that contact has to be or is geared only to potential mates. Had I met some of these gentlemen through my profession and sent the same emails, we would be having a lively email correspondence and maybe even lunch or beers in the evening after work just because its enjoyable and we have things to talk about, are intelligent and articulate and can be funny. We'd sign off at night and not think twice about it. We'd say goodnight in the parking lot and go our separate ways and not think twice about it.
I think it is a bit delusional to think that the initial messages are anything but saying high, feeling out similar interests etc. I know I don't really have a clue if I like the other person or not and there is no way they could know that about me either. And, it very well may be that at the end I'd like to correspond because I like the person but know they are not my love interest. But, not making a connection on that level doesn't mean we might not make connections on other levels and I think it is a disservice to oneself to not respond in a cordial manner to all messages, and see what friendships might develop as well.
After responding to a similar forum question, I went back to my messages and realized I had to emotigrams that I had not responded to, so I sent emotigrams back. I have to say, I don't get the emotigram thing except for maybe holidays or the first message or two and perhaps interpersed in later correspondence when you want the other person to know you were thinking about them but didn't have time to necessarily write.
Additionally, what would be difficult about saying A.) I only check messages once or twice a week, so don't worry if you don't hear back right away. or B.) I'll be out of town for the next three weeks, I'll get back with you when I get back?
That way no one is rereading their emails to see if they said something horrible and didn't realize it, or wondering if you did something else wrong. or C.) if you get a long email with lots of questions -- pick one and answer that and say too many questions to ponder at one time with a smile. . .