(Quote) Andrea-368827 said:
Kristen, I like your deep thoughts. In fact, I'm more interested in how you may answer your questions - then anything I could add.
My first thought was, I wonder if this was an existential book or a christian one. Since the focus was on the choosing of fruit rather than producing fruit - but that's beside the point. I'm glad you read it and we don't have to (since it was a downer and I read slow).
She also must not have been a farmer, because they usually pick all the fruit, not just one. She must have been a consumer not a producer.
Getting to the moral of the story, one choice eliminating other choices causing a fear of commitment.
For me, I have had fear - but not fear because one choice eliminated the other. That's a different area all together.
But I'll share my thoughts on commitment, because someone might be like me - caught unaware.
As a young adult - I had made a choice, but I was not even fully aware of the choice myself. I only vaguely knew and could verbalize something I did not quite understand myself. I would say something to this effect, I would rather take care of my Mom than take care of some strange guy.
It wasn't until my choice became ripe, 10-12 years later - that I knew this is what I chose all along and why I turned away from anything else.
And so, when my Mom was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2001 and I quit my job at 32 yrs. old. I was probably more prepared then most to be flexible enough to meet the situation. And my life choice is right on to what I wanted all along.
So, my moral of the story is - you may have made a choice and not be fully aware of what it is.
That for some - it may not be fear, but that the choice has been so subtly made, you don't recognize what it is.