(Quote) Keith-926558 said: Some of you may recognize the above quote from the t.v. show Mad Men's main character Don Draper. Wh...
(Quote) Keith-926558 said: Some of you may recognize the above quote from the t.v. show Mad Men's main character Don Draper. When I heard that quote I wondered if he was not far from the truth. I think that the internet lends itself to unrealistic expectations. I think about the story this past week of Te'o from Nortre Dame. He claims that he was duped into believing that he had a real girlfriend to find out that it was all a hoax. What I find interesting is that he described this woman in the most endearing terms. Now with that being said, I feel sometimes that the internet has created a totally unrealistic world when it comes to dating because more than once I have chatted with women who seemed perfectly happy just continuing on with electronic communication. I've recently made a friend on CM who states that she realizes that electronic communcation doesn't correlate to in person chemistry. So that goes to the whole idea of "falling in love." Is it just an allusion, is the feeling of falling in love just how God made us so we will bond with one another to continue to mate and popuate the planet or was it created by guys like Don Draper to sell nylons? I heard Dr. James Dobson once say that the whole idea of "falling in love" is a new concept and prior to Shakespeare the idea of finding the perfect mate and physical attraction didn't exist at all to the extent that it does now. Maybe that is why there is a certain amount of disappointment with internet dating because the image that we have created in our minds simply doesn't exist.
"By love you mean big lightning bolts to the heart, where you can't eat and you can't work, and you just run off and get married and make babies. The reason you haven't felt is because it doesn't exist. What you call love was invented by guys like me...to sell nylons....Don Draper : You're born alone and you die alone and this world just drops a bunch of rules on top of you to make you forget those facts. But I never forget. I'm living like there's no tomorrow, because there isn't one......Don Draper
I don't have cable TV so I've never seen the show, but the quote makes Don to be a cynic.
Sure, the Internet can let us create a fantasy about someone. We need to meet people in person and spend time with them for a while before we can better trust who it is we are encountering. Some of us who have been divorced can develop unrealistic expectations regarding others, because we want so much to be happy and feel like we've been robbed of that. Others of us who have been divorced can become cynical and think that falling in love again is an illusion that we scoff at, and even when we do find someone we could develop a good relationship with, the fear or doubt helps us screw it up. The "big lightning bolts to the heart" can be the start of something more, but to make it more usually takes work. And the bolts aren't love.