I think you probably have plenty of company in the phone deal.
The younger crowd probably has a different experience then the older crowd, like me.
Your generation has the opposite over-exposure to the telephone - and I don't know how that feels, or the problems that it brings, I can only guess.
For me, I don't have any interest in talking to a man on the phone, I would choose to meet in person or write.
The thing about texting and email and even these forums, they don't risk rejection.
The other person can view the messages at will, there is no direct rejection possible.
Sometimes, this is what I say on the phone, Hello, this is Andrea, do you have time to talk? ... Something like that, I give them a chance to say if they are busy or what. That can help both them and me.
Our fears can sometimes feel like a punishment to someone else.
Its good to know we are worthy in God's eyes to start a conversation with someone.
I would say I still have a problem with the phone - to the extent that I am aware I will have conflicting thoughts that I usually ignore. And I don't call acquaintances I am unsure of.
It would be interesting to know if you think your fear is of rejection or of giving rejection, or just plain discomfort?