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A Question of Pursuit

01/20/2013 new

I have heard it said that if a man is interested in a woman that he will certainly pursue her. It has been my experience that there are not many searching men on this web-site. And as a woman, I very much want to be pursued. Are the majority of men on this site shy, or just interested in casual friendship? Am I alone in feeling this way?

01/21/2013 new

Everyone is different, but for myself, when I am interested in someone, I always pursue.

01/25/2013 new

It feels more natural when I am the one that pursue's. I gauge a woman's interest on how fast she responds to a message and if she asks questions and takes interest in my life. I don't want to come off as the stalker type though so I think I tend to drop off on conversations if the woman doesn't show a strong interest. So if the bread crumbs aren't being dropped I normally won't pursue to long...

01/25/2013 new

I don't think you are alone in your thoughts Jamie. I also feel the same as you do. I think men like to pursue and women like to be pursued.

01/25/2013 new

(Quote) Jamie-374642 said: I have heard it said that if a man is interested in a woman that he will certainly pursue her. It...
(Quote) Jamie-374642 said:

I have heard it said that if a man is interested in a woman that he will certainly pursue her. It has been my experience that there are not many searching men on this web-site. And as a woman, I very much want to be pursued. Are the majority of men on this site shy, or just interested in casual friendship? Am I alone in feeling this way?

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Hi Jamie! Just an old lady lurker!! Pat posted an article about this in the women's forum. Checkt it out. You are not alone! Chelle

01/25/2013 new

I am in a private group on FB for women who have been on CM.. This week this question was asked of the married women and overwhelmingly the women said their husbands pursued them.. A lot of the women even indicated that the women were less than interested at first.. I know this to be true of my really good friends who have married from here.. A couple of them tried hard to discourage the guys even.. Only to be contentedly married now.. I saw a link concerning this I think would be helpful for both genders. I'll find it..


www.boundless.org

01/25/2013 new

Pursuit should be tempered with moderation though if the guy is coming on too strong that's a bad sign.

01/25/2013 new

(Quote) Jamie-374642 said: I have heard it said that if a man is interested in a woman that he will certainly pursue her. It...
(Quote) Jamie-374642 said:

I have heard it said that if a man is interested in a woman that he will certainly pursue her. It has been my experience that there are not many searching men on this web-site. And as a woman, I very much want to be pursued. Are the majority of men on this site shy, or just interested in casual friendship? Am I alone in feeling this way?

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Jamie,

I'm not part of this group, but I couldn't resist replying.

I'm not sure people here want to hear this, but I'll say it. It is difficult for a man to pursue in an on-line forum, because we don't have anything more than a picture, a voice, or a text to go on. (It's the same reason that a rejection on-line isn't a real rejection; we have no idea who someone really is until we've met them.)

If a man meets you in person and is interested in you, he will certainly pursue you. You have to have the face-to-face contacts first.

01/25/2013 new

(Quote) William-607613 said: Jamie,I'm not part of this group, but I couldn't resist rep...
(Quote) William-607613 said:




Jamie,

I'm not part of this group, but I couldn't resist replying.

I'm not sure people here want to hear this, but I'll say it. It is difficult for a man to pursue in an on-line forum, because we don't have anything more than a picture, a voice, or a text to go on. (It's the same reason that a rejection on-line isn't a real rejection; we have no idea who someone really is until we've met them.)

If a man meets you in person and is interested in you, he will certainly pursue you. You have to have the face-to-face contacts first.

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Thank you William! That is a great insight! I've been feeling the same way as Jamie. I wondered why this was - I don't have this difficult a time in real life - but I supposed it is hard to know if one is very interested from a profile!

01/26/2013 new

thanks! i kinda needed to hear that ~ scratchchin

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