Hi everyone - I'm a newbie at CM, joined 3 weeks ago. I really want to be straightforward and honest in my profile info as well as my posts. But I have five kids, ages 5-16 all at home since my divorce in '10 and my annullment (YEAH!) in November '12. This fact, even on a Catholic website, is not the best advertising, if you catch my drift. Are there others out there who have had results either positive or negative with stating you have a large number of children? I am truly looking for a lifetime partner who will embrace them and love those kids with me, but who is willing to move here so they can still see their father. (psychologically best for them, I'm told. Stinks for me though...my family all lives in Minnesota.) Appreciate any and all thoughts on this. God bless!!
I can say without question that, if given the opportunity to be an equal parent (with help from Mom along the way), I would not hesitate to marry a woman with children already. True love conquers issues of where to live.... however I would expect that their Dad does pay child support on time each month and in the full amount ordered, and I would encourage him to take an active role in his children's lives. I wouldn't want to replace a child's biological father and the important role he is entitled to (and SHOULD!!) play.
I'll turn this one around... I'd expect a woman I marry to want to be a wonderful Catholic role model to, and to build a loving home for, my existing children and any we have together.