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01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: Not having seen the posts you allude to, what exactly is the concern being that the other...
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said:

Not having seen the posts you allude to, what exactly is the concern being that the other person is signed on? And not using Facebook, what are the characteristics oft he "online/idling system" you refer to?

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Hi Jerry!

On Facebook, there is a column off to the side which makesit easy to see who is curently active, a box indicating they left it idle, or nothing. Se a a glance, you can see who is and who isn't available.

Hope you are well!

01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Ray-566531 said: Reminds me of the song, "Suspicious Minds", Donnie. You suspect the worst but without kno...
(Quote) Ray-566531 said:

Reminds me of the song, "Suspicious Minds", Donnie. You suspect the worst but without knowing the whole story. There are a number of reasons a person might be online, and it has nothing to do with a "'con' at work". Some people communicate with friends of the same gender -- probably the ladies more than the men. Consider the pinkies room, for example. In addition, many of us have made cyberfriends with others across the country. While there isn't any thought given to dating, friendly communication is taking place.

Innocent until proven guilty?

I probably show up online nearly all day and night because of not logging out. Sometimes I'm at the computer but navigating different sites (not dating sites, FYI); at other times, I'm otherwise occupied but away from the computer. Rather than go thru the hassle of logging in and out, I just leave it alone. If there's a need for a break from some of my household projects, I'll check to see what's going on here.

This and other circumstances could be what you're encountering. Some people don't put all their eggs in one basket either. That could be happening to you, of course. Keep in mind that until you have a committed relationship, communication with others is fair game, despite your personal feelings about it.

Just hang in there and eventually things will become clearer to you about your person of interest.

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Hi ya Ray!,

I'm confortable in my own skin, believe me. Merely pointing out that I have encountered comments from others concerned with this issue. Like you, I have a tendency to just vacate to do other things without giving it a second thought as to what others may think. I can't afford the time to worry with incidentals.


Appreciate your concern though!

01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Victor-544727 said: No, it doesn't. The site will log you off when you leave the site, but only if you also ...
(Quote) Victor-544727 said:


No, it doesn't. The site will log you off when you leave the site, but only if you also close your browser. Otherwise, you will remain logged-on. However, even if you close your browser without manually logging-off you will still appear "online" even though you have been logged-off.


Fact, not speculation.

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I thought you indicated in the previous response there is a 90 minute timeout?

The server has no way to know that you have walked away from the computer or closed the browser, so there will always be some lag between the time one "disappears" and the time the server times out the session due to inactivity. The shorter you make the inactivity interval the more likely that users who are still present will be affected (e.g., those editing a long forum post or distracted by kids or a phone call at home).

The real problem here is that people insist on demanding that others meet their own expectations.

01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Donnie-397050 said: Hi Jerry! On Facebook, there is a column off to the side which makesit easy to see who is...
(Quote) Donnie-397050 said:

Hi Jerry!

On Facebook, there is a column off to the side which makesit easy to see who is curently active, a box indicating they left it idle, or nothing. Se a a glance, you can see who is and who isn't available.

Hope you are well!

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Thanks for the explanation, Donnie.

01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: I thought you indicated in the previous response there is a 90 minute timeout
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said:

I thought you indicated in the previous response there is a 90 minute timeout?

The server has no way to know that you have walked away from the computer or closed the browser, so there will always be some lag between the time one "disappears" and the time the server times out the session due to inactivity. The shorter you make the inactivity interval the more likely that users who are still present will be affected (e.g., those editing a long forum post or distracted by kids or a phone call at home).

The real problem here is that people insist on demanding that others meet their own expectations.

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There is, whether you actually leave the site or not. If you're on the site and do nothing for 90 minutes (like walking away from your computer) you will still go "idle" and will not appear "online" even though you're still on the site. If you leave the site without logging-off, for any reason, you will appear "online" until your profile times-out and goes "idle" after 90 minutes.


It shouldn't be too difficult to employ a full automatic log-off when you leave the site, for any reason, and regardless of whether or not you close your browser. All bank websites do it, as well as many others.


My argument is the functional operation of the site, not the behaviors of those on it.


theheart

01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Donnie-397050 said: As recently as today, I have encountered posts of subscribers concerned when they logged on and ...
(Quote) Donnie-397050 said:

As recently as today, I have encountered posts of subscribers concerned when they logged on and discovered that their potential love interest was 'on-line'. This has happened to me from time to time, but I have never perceived it as a red flag. There are more than a few reasons other than deception. I am certainly sensitive to those less secure than me. Likewise, I am aware that oportunists Catholics do exist, so this concern can be quite real.

I suppose it speaks to our reason(s) for being here. I enjoy interacting through the fora while 'unattached'. All things considered, once I have established regular communucation with someone I have an interest in and it's reciprocated, I tend to redirect my focus toward that end.

However, it seems this issue is all over the map and potentialluy disruptive to a budding relationship. Should CM adopt an online/idling system akin to fb? If not, what suggestions can you offer to alleviate the concern that a 'con' is at work?

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This is a good idea. When I log-in to CM with my phone, I rarely log-out so it probably looks like I am on here 24/7.

01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Victor-544727 said: There is, whether you actually leave the site or not. If you're on the site and do nothing f...
(Quote) Victor-544727 said:

There is, whether you actually leave the site or not. If you're on the site and do nothing for 90 minutes (like walking away from your computer) you will still go "idle" and will not appear "online" even though you're still on the site. If you leave the site without logging-off, for any reason, you will appear "online" until your profile times-out and goes "idle" after 90 minutes.

It shouldn't be too difficult to employ a full automatic log-off when you leave the site, for any reason, and regardless of whether or not you close your browser. All bank websites do it, as well as many others.


My argument is the functional operation of the site, not the behaviors of those on it.

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Bank web sites dot his by having very short inactivity timeouts. Keep in mind that from the server's perspective a session appears idle the entire time one is editing a forum post or a message to another user. I can easily be editing a longer post for more than 5-15 minutes.

01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: Bank web sites dot his by having very short inactivity timeouts. Keep in...
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said:

Bank web sites dot his by having very short inactivity timeouts. Keep in mind that from the server's perspective a session appears idle the entire time one is editing a forum post or a message to another user. I can easily be editing a longer post for more than 5-15 minutes.

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Yes, they do, but you are automatically logged-off regardless of how long you were on the site. You can log-on to a bank website and immediately leave the site and return, and you will still need to log-on again.


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01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Victor-544727 said: Yes, they do, but you are automatically logged-off regardless of how long you were on the site. ...
(Quote) Victor-544727 said:

Yes, they do, but you are automatically logged-off regardless of how long you were on the site. You can log-on to a bank website and immediately leave the site and return, and you will still need to log-on again.

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That's an entirely different mechanism based on session IDs. When you login to the site the second time and don't present the original session ID the server will terminate the old session; it is not terminated when you close the browser.

01/21/2013 new

(Quote) Jerry-74383 said: That's an entirely different mechanism based on session IDs. When you login to the si...
(Quote) Jerry-74383 said:

That's an entirely different mechanism based on session IDs. When you login to the site the second time and don't present the original session ID the server will terminate the old session; it is not terminated when you close the browser.

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Actually, it does. The session terminates the moment the IP address is no longer in direct communication with the site (i.e. leaving the site). Closing the browser isn't required for this action, simply leaving the site will also trigger the termination of the session.


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