I am wondering if there comes a point when life begins to feel normal again and why does it seem to take soooo long to recover from a divorce? It seems as if everyone thinks you should be "over it" as soon as the ink dries on the divorce papers and that dating should soon follow. I would love feedback because I'm feeling overwhelmed and very confused at the moment. I feel very "un-normal" right now.
Oh, Dana, my heart breaks for you as I remember back 15 years ago to those first days/weeks/months of my separation and subsequent divorce. It was (as I'm sure you know) such an excruciating emotional AND physical pain. Aside from my precious daughter, who was 6 yrs old at the time, the greatest blessing to come out of my divorce was the profound deepening of my Catholic faith. I truly believe that if my former husband had not left us, I would not have been where I am now with my faith.
Let Our Lord comfort you with his amazing love (especially felt in Adoration) and let Our Blessed Mother wrap her gentle cloak of protection around you.
It took me 8 (!!!) years to complete my annulment papers. I would work on a question or part of a question and would become overwhelmed with a whole gammit of emotions, so I'd put it away for weeks, months....and even years. Then I would pull it out again, take it with me to Adoration and repeat that whole process again. I finally summitted my paperwork in Nov. 2011 and received my decree of nullity this past December. I didn't date at all during those 15 years, trusting that God would direct the whole annulment process and if it's His will, He will put a potential spouse into my life.
God bless you, Dana