Big hugs Tracy!! I think we have talked about this topic before. I myself still struggle a bit with wondering about the question. I finally decided to not fret over it and let God send whomever he wishes my direction -- if anyone :-) -- and surprisingly I am starting to be okay with that as well. There are advantages I think to dating only other widowed persons, because of the common ground of grief. I think it is important to note as well that not everyone who is widowed had a strong and happy marriage. I think the fact that we had a successful marriage that ended not by
our choice gives us an advantage in knowing how deeply we are able to
love, how deeply we can be hurt and still survive it.
But,those who experienced a divorce are also going through a version of grief as well and those who have never married may bring an entirely new perspective to a relationship. I think those who have been divorced on the whole would like to experience a different type of marriage, so they may have a stronger incentive to be a good partner. And, they may very well need the type of love that some widowed persons are able to provide.
So after this convoluted little message, I think, you should just give God some flexibility here to send you whom he wishes for you. And, give yourself permission to relax and be open to whomever He sends your way. While there is the view that one should only be serious about those one dates because the ultimate goal is marriage, so as the old teen prayer says -- never choose a date who would not make a good mate. ---- I think it is also quite permissible to date to experience people -- develop friendships with some and others will fall away and others will become something more, some will be something for a season and others not at all. I really believe when you meet the right one, it will sort of take on a life of its own and even when you doubt the Lord will open pathways to ease your mind. And, remember there is no rush, all in God's time.